Nothing makes you think about your life priorities quite like having children. I’ve really been thinking about this lately, between my new appointment to the National Mothers & Caregivers Advisory Committee and my recent discovery that there is a new(er) Roller Derby league in the Hartford area. As you know, I took the new appointment to the national committee and I’m glad I did – it’s a great opportunity to work on motherhood related issues on a national level. I’ve been really debating joining roller derby and I’m really starting to think this is one of those times that I have to say no to something I really want to do.
Let’s face it. Until this point, I pretty much have been able to do what I want. I’ve been able to join boards, participate in sports teams, go on long runs with my pal Julia and go out with friends after work because I didn’t have another human being dependent on me. Having a baby changes things and for the first time in my life I think I have to *not* do something I really want to do.
It might sound silly or odd to you but I have wanted to do roller derby for years. Not even for the fun, sassy outfits and great names (i.e. Garden Of Beatin – my husband’s favorite derby name). I love roller skating and I have a secret aggressive side so the sport really appeals to me. But, the practices are sunday nights and monday nights, which technically I can do but my heart is telling me otherwise. My husband is so supportive of me going out for derby, he even bought me a skater-style helmet. But I keep going back and forth in my mind about it.
If I didn’t already have other commitments that make me feel fulfilled (shout out to my Young Women’s Leadership Program peeps!) maybe I would feel super strongly about doing derby. But the reality is I do have boards that I’m on, I do have amazing friends and I have this website as a great source of connecting with other CT based working moms. I don’t really need another thing to do, I want to do it, but I don’t need to.
Sorry if this blog post is a big scatterbrained – clearly a sign of my internal conflict. When all is said and done, I don’t want to miss sunday and monday nights with my family. I don’t want to spend even more time away and miss seeing my baby girl. So, for now, roller derby will have to wait. Maybe at some point in the future I can do it but it’s just not the right time right now. And you know what, I’m totally OK with that.
When you became a mom did you have to change your priorities? Comment and let me know your thoughts.