My boyfriend keeps trying to find the “common theme” to my CT Working Moms blogs. “They don’t seem to have a lot to do with being a working mom” he says. So, after rudely dismissing him, I started thinking maybe he has a point and I should talk about how I balance my job with being a mom.
So, for Steve.
I am a political director for a union. I travel a lot and work a ton of hours – in the office, at home, on the phone, on a computer, in airports, on trains, planes, subways and automobiles, in meeting after meeting and more.
But I love my job because it has meaning to me.
Twenty five years ago I took a leap of faith from the then safe and stable confines of an insurance company (yes, the ones I regularly protest outside of today) to run a rape crisis center. Having spent 3 years at this un-named company seeking refuge from the meaningless mundanity in event planning for their United Way campaign, starting a salvage food program for a local soup kitchen, selling flowers to support charities for cancer, diabetes, heart, lung, sick kids, clean air, safe tap water, circus animal safety, happy pets and you name it – I decided it was either turn into a drone or become a leader.
Today my job provides me with a good salary, extraordinary health benefits and retirement security – unions fight for that for workers but employers detest them – that’s a political blog I’ll save for another site.
Yet, I struggle every day with being exceptional at my job and a perfect Mom – because anything less would fail to satisfy my Type A personality. My next blog may be about the problem with this type of thinking!
Not a day goes by however, when this struggle is not in my face, on my mind and in my heart. Every day requires choices, decisions and amazing friends who help when I ask. So far, I have managed but I daresay my daughters, on any given day, might disagree.
But, I can only hope that as they grow up they feel loved, cared for and ready to go out and fight for a life and a world that is just, peaceful and meaningful and that in some small way I have set an example worth living up to for them.