Hello, my name is Dena, and I used to be a Pinterest junkie.
I think of myself as a fairly creative person. I cook, I like to do crafts, I like to decorate. I have a Pinterest account filled with deliciously-easy, make-themselves recipes, hours-of-entertainment crafts, creatively-chic home decor ideas:
- Oh! Freeze-ahead crock-pot meals!
- Homemade bird-feeders and sidewalk chalk!
- 100’s of ways to create spectacular lunchbox lunches!
- Built in laundry chute!
- Boil your water to make crystal clear ice!
In reality I:
- Have made a few recipes, ones I probably could have gotten in a cookbook or on the rest of the internet;
- Have managed to do one craft project with my children that ended in tears;
- Am lucky that I can muster a sandwich, fruit, veggie, and milk for lunch packing at night;
- Have no space for that gorgeous outdoor fire pit or the quad-bunk-bed awesomeness;
- Have an ice maker that makes my ice, thankyouverymuch!
As a busy working mom I have little time to spend with my kids at the end of the day. Some nights I don’t even get to tuck them in if I am working late. About 3 months ago, I stopped “pinning.” As I poured over oodles of pins one night, feeling slightly inadequate, I started to realize that, while I may think of myself as Martha Stewart on occasion, my kids don’t want or need her.
They just want me to be their mom.
I decided to let myself off the hook- to allow myself to not succumb to one more pressure to be perfect. We eat homemade meals most nights of the week and my audition for Master Chef is a few seasons off, so meals that come pre- or mostly cooked are not going to send DCF or Gordon Ramsey to my door. My kids do tons of art projects at school, it’s ok if we don’t glitter the house. Lunch is for eating , not for putting in a museum. Someday my house will be like the magazine, but right now my children break nice things, so why bother. And really, who the f*&% cares if my ice is cloudy?
Will I close the doors on Pinterest forever? No. I will probably still use it for special occasion ideas- I can’t help making elaborate birthday cakes, or for the occasional new recipe, or if we ever find an inch or two more space in this house.
But for now, most nights will look like last night.
Last night we ate Mac and Cheese from a box. We played blocks and read books. We snuggled while watching the Wonder Pets. We laughed. I put them to bed in their mismatched bedroom sets, and threw the dirty laundry from the day in the heap in the corner, and then I made myself a special drink with cloudy ice.
But you know what?
I don’t think either one of my kids went to bed not knowing how much I love them.
Take that and “Pin It!”