When I was thinking about my post for the week, I wanted to focus on discipline and dealing with the Terrible 3’s. But something happened between Thursday and Saturday that changed my life.
I saw the Dalai Lama.
I know that “I saw the Dalai Lama and it changed my life” may sound so cliche. But it’s so wonderfully true.
My post last week focused on trying to find happiness and share that with your children. Maybe I am at a place in my life where I have realized that I am tired of getting caught up in people’s drama, anger, impatience and frustration and realize that I need to pass along more peaceful things to my children.
You can’t explain it, but something happens when you are in the presence of the Dalai Lama. He is just the coolest man on the planet. He’s humble, funny and you hang on every word.
Don’t get me wrong, the man doesn’t have an answer for everything. When one person asked “how can we provide motivation for these young people who don’t seem to care about their future and are apathetic about life?”
He thought for a minute or two, then simply said “I don’t know!”
The long and short of it is that you will not truly be happy unless you find inner peace. That inner peace can help you let negativity blow through you like the wind, it will allow you to use more of your brain and react less with flaring temper or irrational responses.
It’s finding your inner peace that is the hard part.
What I walked away with was how to try to incorporate your goal of finding inner peace in your daily life.
Every morning, deliver a mantra to yourself. Not something that is canned saying or prayer that you don’t really believe in the meaning. The mantra doesn’t have to be religious or spiritual. Just something that expresses your belief of what kind of person you want to be, how you want to live your life.
Mean it when you say it to yourself.
Then, before bed, reflect on your day. Did you lose your patience? Did you judge someone? Did you act in ways that were against your mantra?
Don’t be too critical of yourself, but take in what mistakes you made and how you will work on not letting that happen again. Be realistic.
The words of the Dalai Lama rang so true to me. He recounted stories of meeting people all over the world with wealth, education, elite lifestyles, but who were unhappy.
Happiness does not come from things. Happiness does not come from gossiping about others to feel better about yourself. Happiness does not come from winning arguments or competitions.
Happiness comes from within. And I know that I found this entire experience very timely for me. I needed to hear that I am not helplessly and hopelessly bringing my children up in a world filled with hate and violence . We can overcome negativity but we need to start with ourselves.
I will try to find my own inner peace for me, my wife, my children and the world around me.