I’ve learned a lot in 31 years, but I’m FAR from having it all figured out. I know that there’s plenty of things that I don’t even know I don’t know (follow me?) but there are some lessons I’m aware that I have yet to master.
Having a child in your life makes you aware of how much joy life can bring…and also an awareness of how small your bank account can become, how complicated things can be, and of your own shortcomings. So, so many lessons. It’s amazing how being a mom can teach you so much about the other parts of yourself.
This is by no means an exhaustive list, but I know I still need to learn these three things:
1. The difference between what I truly need and what I just want.
Yeah, I’m talking about material things here. Things aren’t memories. You can’t love things like you love your family. Things don’t give snuggly hugs and fish kisses like your family does. I’m rich in so many ways because of my family. Chances are, I already have all that I need.
2. You can do anything, but not everything.
Ohhhh boy. This one’s hard to grasp for a perfectionist. Knowing I can be anything I want to be; well, I was fortunate to have parents that instilled this in me at a young age (even though I’m still figuring out what I want to be when I grow up). But knowing I can’t do everything? It really only takes one day in the life of a working mom to see this. Work, family, volunteering, household responsibilities, social expectations – something’s gotta give. I can still be a pretty super mom without being Super Mom. If I can just learn to let go sometimes.
3. To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.
This one’s about the example I want to set for my daughter. Not just talking the talk, but stepping up, lacing up, and walking the walk. Bring who you are on the inside, out, in your actions and words. I know what I believe in and what is important to me, but I have difficulty speaking up at times. I want my daughter to have a strong role model who isn’t afraid to voice her feelings, no matter the situation.
There’s a lot left to learn, but I’m an eager student. And my daughter – well, she’s turning out to be a pretty amazing teacher.
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