For some reason, the buzz-word of the week in my household has been “privacy.” For example, my daughter declared out of the blue at the library “I have to go potty but I can’t go right here cuz I need my privacy.” The other day she barged in on me in the bathroom. When I politely told her to scram and that I needed my space, she replied sweetly as she closed the door, “Ok mommy, you can have some privacy.” Even as I am writing this post, my daughter shooed me out of her room when I went to check on her proclaiming, “I need my privacy mommy, go back to your comp-kee-ter!” (Mia-speak for computer).
It seems like only yesterday my daughter was glued to my hip, now she is understanding the concept of personal space? I don’t quite know what to make of it. Could it be that after months and months of me pleading (and begging) “Please stop climbing on me while I am eating dinner”, or “No grabbing mommy’s boobies, I didn’t make any milk today!” that my desire for personal space is finally (somewhat) sinking in with her?
I knew the minute I found out I was pregnant the very first privilege I would lose was my privacy. If only for the fact I had someone taking up room and board in my body. I was fully aware that date nights with my husband would be few and far between and that the days of taking long, hot showers in peace were over. But now that my child has been using the word “privacy” so frequently and is taking small steps to give me quiet time, this might be the right moment to build a framework for teaching her boundaries. It got me thinking that maybe it’s time for my little family to create our very first set of rules. Wish us luck!
1. Be respectful of personal space. This is defined by doing the following activity: Each family member shall spin around in a circle with their arms extended while singing a song. This area shall be your happy, personal space.
2. Always knock before entering a room, especially the bathroom! Please ask for permission before entering when someone is using the bathroom or is in their bedroom.
3. When requesting personal space and privacy, please do so in a respectful tone. “Leave me alone!” or “Go away!” is not nice.
4. Hugs and kisses are not considered invasions of personal space and are always welcome.
I must admit I am big violator of rule #3, but I am doing my very best to change my attitude and be a little more patient. Is there anything you would add to this list?