When Kids Get Hurt

Dec 6, 2012 by

Who I actually am as a mom often differs from the mom I thought I would be. 

There are the little things like not anticipating being the crunchy cloth diapering or  “no tv” mom.  Before I had children of my own I was all, “babies cry sometimes, so what?”. I had no idea I would be *that* mom who would jump at the tiniest squawk.  And patience? Considering all the PIA kids I’ve dealt with, surely my own would never break me.  HA HA HA. 

Another realization came to me this week when we had to make our first ER trip.  I had no idea how hard it would be to see my child hurt. 

You see, I’ve never been much of a hoverer.  I let my kids run and play while kissing bumps and bruises as they come.  It may have happened that my baby was scaling the rock wall at the playscape at the tender age of 13 months. I’ve long sang the praises of children’s resiliency.  They bounce, right?

Well, yes, until they don’t.  My 6-year-old fell and hit his chin hard on our wood floor.  I was right there, and will never forget the sound.  I wouldn’t know until later the extent of the injury, but I knew immediately that a kiss and the Sponge Bob ice pack wasn’t fixing this one.  And you know what I did? I lost my damn mind.

Thanks to my wife, the wonderful team at CCMC, and the doctors who will continue to monitor his healing, I’m sure he will be fine.  Actually, he stopped crying about an hour after the accident and hasn’t shed a tear since.  I can’t say the same for me. 

I had no idea how hard it would be to see my child hurt. 

The realization that I can’t always protect them or keep them safe has rocked me to my core.  Of course I always knew  that, but it was the first time I actually felt  it.  The miles between those two things is, well, devastating. 

I know what you are thinking…accidents happen, this will just be one of many boo boos, and we have an entire lifetime to go of hurts that I won’t be able to shield them from.  It’s true. And it sucks. I wouldn’t have anticipated it before, but I’m not going to be so good at this part. 

 

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Elise

Elise and her wife live in Newington. After becoming foster parents in December 2009, they’ve developed a much greater appreciation for drinking. Kidding, mostly. In April 2012 they were overjoyed to have the opportunity to adopt their 3 wonderful foster children ages 6, 2 ½, and 19 months. Despite racking up mega loans to study school and child psychology for a million years, Elise works full time in the insurance industry. Not to worry though, her children – thoughtful things that they are – make sure she has ample opportunity to put her schooling to work on a daily basis. In her free time – ha!, yeah right.

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5 Comments

  1. Great post Elise! I hope that your baby heals fast, though I know it will be harder for you! You are a great mom and your kids definitely know it!

  2. Thanks Dena <3

  3. twotrue

    G’s first stitches were worse on me than her. I bawled and bawled and felt awful. But she has heeled, just like your son will and next time you and I will be a tad bit stronger (but will still probably cry ;-) ).

  4. Jen Seiderer

    I’m so sorry, Elise! This is a great post and you are a GREAT mom. I know I felt the same way when my Big broke his arm before he was 2. I was RIGHT THERE, he just fell in the living room, but it felt awful to me. That’s the downside of having a huge heart — we feel everything too much, but I wouldn’t want the alternative. Hugs to you! xoxo

  5. holly

    Great post Elise! I was considering a similar post after our week this week. I have a child that will be hurt a lot. It’s so hard to let him be him and then stay calm when the inevitable happens.

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