Do you remember Dory, the good-hearted, optimistic, yet forgetful, little fish from Finding Nemo? I feel like I have a lot in common with her. Yes, I am extremely forgetful, it’s true, but it’s more than that. I’m looking back at a few moments in my life, call them life events if you will, and I feel that Dory’s motto of “Just keep swimming” are words that I live by.
In most cases, when I am confronted with a crisis or a stressful event, I do a quick assessment of what I can and cannot control about the situation. If there is something I can do to make the situation better, I do it. And then–I move on. I just keep swimming. I don’t beat myself up or wallow in the pity of “poor me”. I am too busy for that and I have too many people depending on me. Sure, I accept responsibility when I’m the cause of the problem and learn from my mistakes, but I just don’t see the good in pulling on the hair shirt and punishing myself by reliving the pain of what I can’t control.
Here are some examples of me, choosing to move forward:
- My baby was born 13 weeks early? Trust the doctors and just keep swimming.
- My marriage is hitting a rough patch? Make the changes I need to and just keep swimming.
- I’m in debt up to my eyeballs? Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming.
- I got a performance review that was so bad I almost lost my job? Get my focus back and just keep swimming.
- Dog pooped in the dining room and I slipped in it? Throw my shoes outside, get out the mop and just keep swimming.
- My 4-year old refuses to get dressed for daycare in anything but her Dorothy costume? Sigh deeply and just keep swimming.
- My first negative comments on a blog post? No problem, I’ll. Just. Keep. Swimming.
My daughter loves the show “Good Luck Charlie”. Last night’s show centered on the teenage girl character getting her heart-broken for the first time. Oh, she was a mess, crying and not showering, as any teenager who sees the end of their world would be. I’m dreading that moment. I hope it never happens. But if the time comes for my girl Z to experience that heartbreak, whether it’s because of a boy or just mean girls, I hope that she will see me as her comfort in the storm. But I also hope I can pass a little bit of my ability to just keep swimming along to her.