There have been some lovely posts and comments going on here lately at ctworkingmoms.com about finding inner peace. This is something near and dear to my heart, as I’ve been searching for inner peace since…well… adolescence, really. I would never claim to know how anyone else can achieve inner peace, as each of our journeys are uniquely different, but I would like to share some of the things I’ve put in my “inner-peace-tool-kit” over the years. Am I a Bliss Bunny all the time? Not quite. But I am comfortable in my own skin, comfortable with all my feelings/emotions (even the dark ones), and comfortable with allowing others to find their own way as well. Here is some of what helped me get here:
* Since I was a young age I’ve always believed that “everything happens for a reason and everything happens for the best”, even if I don’t understand it at the time. This notion helped me keep going through the confusing tough times.
* I’ve always, always trusted my “inner compass”, putting faith in my intuition over and above any authority figure, expert, or even common sense.
* About 6 years ago I stopped trying to “save” or “rescue” my family members and friends, telling myself that “everyone’s path is perfect.” Even if I don’t agree with how others are living, I’ve learned to appreciate their journey, trusting they are doing the best they can with what they have, while also affirming “there are many paths up the same mountain.” THIS has been a huge relief for me, and probably my loved ones too!
* About 6 years ago I started practicing Daily Gratitude. Life-changing! Sincerely, LIFE-CHANGING! When you notice the good in your life, you draw more good to you. (Did I mention it was life-changing?)
* About 3 years ago, I took off my “everything-is-perfect-I-got-this-all-figured-out” mask and started being TRULY AUTHENTIC! It all started with…can you guess? Wait for it……TRUE CONFESSIONS! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, True Confessions has truly set me free. It’s allowed me to tell the truth and also allowed me to laugh at myself. True Confessions help me embrace my humanity and my dark side (we ALL have one), and it’s helped me to truly feel comfortable with exactly who I am. There is nothing more freeing and liberating than True Confessions!
* I practice random acts of kindness, because it FEELS good! I’ll write a letter to brighten someone’s day, I’ll buy the cashier at the check-out flowers, I’ll compliment a stranger, I’ll pay for the person behind me in the drive-thru, I’ll leave anonymous little love notes on windshields on cars. It feeeeeels good and it makes me happy!
* I write “Thank you” with a smilie face in the memo part of my bills. And as I pay each bill I thank the money I’m sending while asking it to send back about 100 times more of it’s friends to me.
* When an asshole driver cuts me off or just acts like an asshole, I give them the benefit of the doubt by saying they must have a crying baby in the back. Lord knows I’ve driven like an asshole with a crying baby in the back!
* I smile at strangers, and even if they don’t smile back I know they WANT to.
* I practice Radical Forgiveness. This has been a magical part of letting go of the victim role, while also assuming responsibility for my part in the situation. Another thing that is truly, truly life changing and paradigm-shifting!
* I’ve stopped trying to convince anyone of anything. I have no need to defend or explain myself. I am so certain of my Truth, that it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of me. I LIKE that!
* When things get uncomfortable, I know it’s time for change. When I get angry, I know the anger is trying to motivate me to do something. When I get sad, I let myself feel the sadness. I honor my feelings, even wallow if I need to (for a short time) and then I move on.
* I believe in MAGIC! I believe the angels help me find perfect parking spaces, I believe I can fix malfunctioning electronics with a simple command, and I believe that even the impossible is truly possible. Instead of thinking outside the box, I’ve just chucked the whole damn box!
These are just some of the tools that have helped shape me into the person I am today. I’m still a work in progress and probably always will be, but now the work feels like play. And I’m pretty damn happy.
Do any of these resonate with you or do you have your own tools to share? Happy Magical Monday! ♥