My husband is a teacher and has been on his April vacation this week so I planned to take a day off from work so we could enjoy some time together…kid free! It doesn’t happen very often these days. Or, like ever. The plan was to take the motorcycle out for the day, stop somewhere for lunch, and enjoy the beautiful weather. I was beyond excited until Jim told me the bad news (the night before mind you) that his tires were more worn than he realized and he didn’t feel comfortable going out riding until he gets new ones.
I was pretty bummed out that the plan fell through but took the news pretty well, I thought. You see, I’m a planner. I like to know what I’m doing and when I’m doing it, ahead of time. I’ll be honest with you…I sometimes have mini panic attacks when plans change at the last-minute. Don’t ask me why, but that’s just how I am and always have been. My husband, on the other hand, is a go-with-the-flow kind of guy. Sometimes this aggravates me, but more often it actually helps balance my need to plan and schedule everything. I guess you could say he is my “chill pill.”
After asking my wonderful fellow CT Working Mom bloggers for ideas, we decided to take a drive towards the shore (we live in central Connecticut). The sun was shining; the seagulls were, um…screeching? It was a beautiful day for some alone time with my husband. Just having the opportunity to drive in the car without having to say, “Stop kicking the seat please!” or listen to a baby cry was DIVINE. And sitting together over a meal in a restaurant without having to pause mid-sentence to say “Stop yelling pllleeeeaaase!” or “We don’t act like that in restaurants. You know better!” was BLISS! Adult conversation and holding each other’s hand (instead of a baby or a toddler) took me back to our dating days.
I think it’s such an important concept – to date your spouse even after you’re married with kids. We adore our children but there are days they require so much time and energy that it almost feels as if there’s not much left to give. Having some kid-free time with my husband was the perfect opportunity to nurture our relationship and recharge my mommy battery all at the same time. I came back to my little girls feeling refreshed, rejuvenated, and ready to deal with any tantrum they threw my way. Tomorrow, however, might be a different story!