Motherhood has changed me. While my focus usually shifts towards the physical changes, I have begun to take notice of the positive changes that have occurred within myself now that I’m a mom.
1. I’m better at rolling with the punches
I have always been a huge planner and when plans changed (especially last-minute) my inner child would have a mini meltdown! I’m pleased to say I’ve become quite a bit more flexible. Let’s face it; with kids you sort of have to be. They can be masters of throwing curve balls your way. You can have the best laid plans set and ready to go and then BAM! One kiddo is sick, or over tired, or just plain not interested in letting you accomplish what you’ve set out to do.
2. I rely on humor to get me through the day
Ok, this is something I have always done but I think it’s become even more important to me now that I’m a parent. There are times where finding humor can be crucial for getting through the day sane! My patience can be wearing so thin and then my daughter can say something (completely straight-faced) and it downright cracks me up and lightens my mood. There are some days this unintentional comedy saves me from having a mini-breakdown. Especially after a hard day at work. I try to record every funny little quote that comes my way. Here are a few gems out of the mouth of my 3-year-old daughter:
“Not my problem. Stop your whining!”
“One day your belly was full of girls!”
“My boobies are red!”
3. I appreciate my time alone more than ever
There once was a time I would usually try to avoid having time by myself. Now, with 2 kids, there are days when the only time I have to myself is in the bathroom (and that’s not always a guarantee either)! These days, having some alone time takes a bit more planning and getting out to run a quick errand by myself can feel like a mini vacation (yes, sad but true!). Times like this give me the opportunity to regroup and recharge and I certainly feel that I come back a better parent because of it.
4. I take more notice of the small moments
Yes, I know it’s cliché but I do cherish each day more and more, especially the little moments within each day, as I see how quickly my kids are growing and changing. Little moments can consist of anything from enjoying a pretend tea party with my 2 daughters, to listening to my daughter excitedly discuss all of her big plans for her upcoming first year of preschool. Tiny moments full of hugs and kisses and, “Mommy, let’s be great friends!” Now, more than ever, I understand why some of the everyday moments can be just as, if not more, important than the big ones.