One of the things I cherish as a mom of 3 is my different relationships with each of my children.  I love them equally, but differently.  I speak to them differently, play with them differently, and respond to them differently.  It’s really quite amazing to see and nurture my separate connections.

One of my favorite ways to nurture these seperate connections is with “Yes Day”s.  There are two very simple rules to a Yes Day.  The child’s requests must be respectful and with a please.  And I must do my very best to say,  “yes”.

Can we please drop off little sisters at school and spend the day just me and him?

Yes!

Have a hot dog for breakfast?

Yes!

Take the train into New York City?

Yes!

Run hand in hand through the rain laughing our heads off?

Yes!

Play puppies/trains/dinosaurs and then puppies again?

Yes!

Eat lunch at a restaurant that gives out balloons?

Yes!

Skip nap and instead cuddle up in the library treehouse reading books?

Yes!

Bounce/climb/slide/chase/tickle again! again! again! and give mommy a better workout then she would get at the gym?

Yes!

Eat ice cream for dinner?

Yes!

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My son and I recently had a wonderful Yes Day involving much of the above. It was a fantastic (albeit nutritionally deficient) day for the both of us and I slept better than I have in months.  And what a treat it was for me – so often the harbinger of “no”, “not right now”, and “that’s against the rules” – to give myself permission to let all of that go for a day.  Never underestimate the power of yes.

My son is fun, energetic, patient, and kind.  He is a joy to spend time with.  When we first met, I wasn’t sure I would ever be able to say that.  A few years ago, spending time with him was work.  It was exhausting and his volatility made the idea of taking him out in public by myself terrifying.  All of that makes our ‘Yes Days’ so much sweeter.  I’m very grateful to enjoy my little boy and I won’t take a single moment of fun for granted.

I’m so thankful that I said yes that cold December evening when I got the call that would begin the rest of my life.  And I’m even more thankful that I never stopped saying yes, even in the darkest of days.

 

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