The BIG 30

Oct 25, 2013 by

In just a few short weeks I will be turning the big 3-0! I can’t believe that I will soon be someone who is in their thirties. I don’t know quite just yet how I feel about being 30. Part of me feels that I am getting old very quick and the other part of me feels that it’s a new decade to start some wonderful memories and truly live life, more so than I ever have.

As I look back at my life and what I want out of my next thirty years, all I can think about is how I so badly want to just relax, enjoy life and not be so stressed out over the smallest of issues.

For a good part of my life I had to deal with and address some hefty stress-induced situations, some of which I exacerbate, and others, that are completely out of my control. No matter what the situation is, I really need to start looking towards my heart and soul for comfort and healing from the anxiety that creeps upon me.

While I don’t know how I’m going to train my mind to think differently, I am going to start with a list of statements that I will recite to myself when I am feeling anxious or stressed out.

–          You do not own anxiety, it is something that comes and goes and do not make it part of you.
–          Stop worrying about whether the house is clean, if the dishes are washed and if the laundry is put away. You can’t enjoy life if you are inside cleaning.
–          Look at the person you have married and how much you love him. While you would want to think your stress doesn’t affect him, you are wrong. Not only does it affect him, but it affects your daughter too. Try to breath and take a walk if you feeling stressed.
–          Stop thinking you are the only one who is stressed and frustrated.  Not only are you wrong, but you are putting extra pressure on yourself.
–          Think about how wonderful your life has been and how much you love your family.  You are one blessed person.
–          Calm down. Stop running around the house like a mad woman, stop pretending to be supermom. You can’t do it all and stop thinking you can. Maybe if you did this you would be less stressed.
–          You are a high energy person who married a laid back, easy-going man. Try taking on some of his qualities and ditching your old ones that make you so frazzled.

Wow, after just writing this out, I actually feel somewhat better. I think writing about my struggle with anxiety is something I should do more of.

How did you feel when you turned 30? Were you excited? Did you reflect on your past thirty years and what you want out of the next thirty?

For anyone who is turning 30 in 2013, I’d like to wish you a Happy Birthday!

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Melissa Muszynski

Melissa is the mother to a daughter born in April 2012. She lives in Hartford County with her husband Mike and their German Shepherd Lucy. Melissa has worked in public relations and communications since 2006 and currently works for a global engineering firm in the Hartford area. She is pursuing her Master’s in Communication at Central Connecticut State University. Her favorite pastimes are spending time with her family and friends, cooking and of course partaking in some retail therapy.

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5 Comments

  1. Good luck!!!! Approaching 50 is easier – much happier with life despite working mom juggle. 30 was tough as I was single, just out of a relationship, in a boring job but sister-in-law was pregnant with first child. Nothing like beby niece to kick out the blues.

  2. Happy Birthday! Thirty was a great year for me, as I became a mom that year. So – I didn’t feel stressed about it. But I do love the saying that goes something like, “I’m 30, but I feel like I’m 20, until I hang out with some 20 year olds and then I’m like, nope, never mind, I’m 30″

  3. I loved turning thirty and this post is great! I think recognizing many things about yourself is half the battle!

  4. Michelle

    My sister-in-law has always told me that the 30’s are way better than the 20’s! Happy Birthday Melis!

  5. Cora

    Turning 30 was great. so many great things happened to me that year. I resonate with a lot of the things you said to yourself here. Have a great birthday, mine (37) is in a few weeks too!

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