Today on Facebook a friend updated her status by saying that she wouldn’t win any Mother of the Year awards for forgetting there was a 1/2 day of school today and as a result her daughter had to go to a friend’s house off the bus. I responded by saying that she was a good mom because she gave her daughter the tools she needed to know what to do in that situation.
We are all good moms. We are all trying our best for our kids. Sometimes we fail, most of the time we succeed. As moms we put so much emphasis on our flaws. Although isn’t that true of everything we do as women? Something is wrong here.
I’ve been thinking a lot of this video that went viral a while back.
We’ve all been there. We have all scrutinized our parenting skills, but guess what? Our kids don’t. This morning Lovey was sitting in the doorway on the floor while Honey was trying to leave for work. I told her that sitting in the doorway wasn’t a great choice because she was blocking it and she could get hurt. She just sat there. I quickly realized it was intentional and asked her what was wrong. She just shrugged. It was then I figured out she just needed me. I asked her if she wanted some love and she nodded and came over and climbed in my lap. We sat like that for a few minutes. I whispered some loving words to her and filled her hand with love that she could take to school. She bounded off to play with her sister with a big smile on her face. All she wanted was me. She didn’t need me at my best, or doing something cool, or helping her with something; she just needed me. As parents in the rush of life we often forget that our kids just want our time, plain and simple. If we give them that they forget about the times we didn’t wash their favorite shirt or forced them to eat one.more.piece of broccoli.
After watching the viral video I stumbled on this story about a guy who pays the check of a mother eating in a restaurant with her children. He compliments her on her parenting skills at a time when she was probably thinking she was sucking it up. Then one of my favorite blogs, Cup of Jo, linked to this story about telling mothers they are good at what they do.
I see good moms out their all the time. My friend on FB forgot her daughter had a half day. She’s a good mom, she had a back up plan that was followed. My friend had to take her son out of the church pew on Sunday because she was loud. She’s a good mom; she is teaching her son about rules, routines, and expectations. The mom who forgoes cooking dinner and drives through Mcdonald’s so she can spend more time playing and less time cooking is a good mom too.
We are all good moms and we don’t hear it enough from ourselves or from others. Here is my two-part challenge for you: (1) Right now comment and tell me one thing you’ve done today that makes you a good mom. It doesn’t have to be life-altering, just something. (2) Comment and tell me one thing someone else has done that you’ve witnessed that makes them a good mom. Then go tell them, preferably on social media so everyone they know can see what a great mom they are too. And here’s a bonus challenge: Tell a stranger you see doing something good-mom-worthy that you noticed it. I’m guessing it will make their day, and probably yours too.