I had an epiphany the other day. I realized the best philosophy I have picked up over the years is very basic.
“You never know what you will do until you are in that situation”
I think when we are all young and idealistic (this of course is not a bad thing) you think you have an iron clad idea of how you are going to be, or react, in certain situations. Over the years I was one of those idiot young women who thought I had it all figured out. I am the first to admit I WAS DEAD WRONG. More times than not.
“I would never stay with a guy if he did that!” Oh really dumb ass? Because you did that a couple of times.
“I totally want that job it sounds perfect!” Holy SHIT that was the worst, fucking job I have ever had.
“My child would never act like that!” Hahahahaha, this one makes me laugh so hard I vomit. This has been shoved in my face everyday!
“God, my mother is so freaking stressed, and crazy! What’s her problem?” Oh mom I totally know now what your “problem” was. It was us kids, LOL.
“I would never have a one night stand!” Yes, I was that girl and you know what, I am proud of it (Booo Yaaa! College was fun)
“I will never bend on what I want in a relationship.” Yeah this will never work in a partnership or marriage. It is all compromising and bending.
“That boss seems like a whackjob! Everyone says so!” Turned out to be one of the best bosses I have had so far in my life. Wrong again.
“My kid will sleep through the night right away, it can’t be that hard right?” Uggggghh. Yeah, I remember a zombie like time where that concept was so far gone it seemed fantasy.
There are so many other ideas over my life that have been changed or altered due to either a situation at hand, a person, or new education. Some were dramatics like break-ups or job changes while others were more subtle.
Over all the years I can honestly say I am glad I finally found my way to realizing you never know till you know…..Ya Know?
So to all my younger women out there with your iron clad morals or plans of how your life can be, I am super excited for when you make it to the other side especially if you are a working mother. You will realize that all the judgments you had are basically bullshit. You realize that every person has their own battle and one day a battle of yours will make that iron clad idea crumble into a million pieces.
Do me a favor and embrace it because we only grow through changes like this. Plus when you come to the same realization you usually come out a much more kind, understanding & supportive human being – which the world just needs more of.
So to my old self I just want to shout :OH SHUT THE FUCK UP! You have no freaking clue what you are talking about…..but you will. (With a devious smile)