My son has been in childcare since week 12 of his life and there have been A LOT of transitions… for both of us. Some have been easier on him than on me, and vice versa. I don’t know how he will handle the transition to Kindergarten yet, but I have to tell you, this transition is proving to be pretty difficult for me.
The first big transition came when he began child care. That one was pretty hard on me. He was so young that he didn’t really seem bothered by it. As a new mom though, the entire experience of engaging with adults each morning, hearing feedback about my son’s behaviors, and leaving him to go to work were quite challenging. I learned a lot about myself and grew to own my choice to work and see that my relationship with my childcare providers is a partnership, where the main goal is the best interest of my child and that their feedback is from a place of knowledge and love, not judgement of my parenting.
Since then there have been many big transitions, like when my son came to realize I was “leaving” him and would cry when I tried to depart. That wasn’t so fun for him or me. Or when he transitioned to the toddler room and learned to drink from a cup, sit at a table, wash his hands, go to the bathroom, and so much more. And then, like the blink of an eye he transitioned to Pre-School where he struggles with Moondays the same way I do.
Each of these transitions has been amazing to watch, difficult to negotiate, and bitter sweet. But, each has also taught me a great deal about myself and how to handle change and his growth.
I don’t know what it is about Kindergarten, but this next transition seems so huge to me. Tonight is the West Hartford Transition to Kindergarten Question and Answer event and I plan to be there front and center. I’m pretty well versed on where my son should be developmentally and the expectations for him in Kindergarten because of my professional affiliations and having a Kindergarten teacher for a mom.
But I still need tonight’s event…to get me ready! Tonight is a part of my transition process. My son’s officially not a baby anymore or a big boy. He’s heading off to Elementary School and like with all the transitions before this one, I need to get myself ready to support him.
Seeing as I’m tearing while typing this, I still have a long way to go in this transition process, but I’ll get there and so will he, together. In the meantime, please wish me luck!