This week I’ll celebrate another birthday…which is much better than the alternative.
Now officially in my late 40’s, I’m not so happy about the rapidly multiplying gray hairs threading along my hairline, nor am I thrilled with the lines that have appeared along my forehead or around my eyes. But even as mid-life’s inevitable physical changes start creeping in, I’m strangely at peace with the aging process. I have much more confidence in myself than I did in my 20’s and I feel happier with myself and proud of what I accomplished in my 30’s and my 40’s.
Below are a few things I’ve learned as I’ve gotten older:
1) I still have the ability to achieve my goals – even though I’m a mom, I’m still career oriented and driven…even if I’m the one doing most of the driving.
2) I’ve learned which friendships are worth investing in, and which aren’t.
3) I’ve figured out what clothing styles look best on my body type regardless of trends.
4) That last 5 pounds really isn’t going to make much of a difference, so I stopped stressing about it.
5) Magazine-perfect homes are only in magazines. Just once, I’d like to see dirty clothes in a heap on the floor in a magazine…maybe I’ll have to start one and call it “Real Living.”
6) In your 40’s you spend more time going to funerals than weddings – that puts things in perspective.
7) Don’t bother comparing yourself to other people. It drains you and generates unhappiness. I genuinely appreciate what I have and know that it could be worse.
8) I can’t read minds – nor can others read mine. I’ve learned to speak up for what I need and ask others what they want. It saves a lot of time and energy (especially with my husband!).
9) The health choices you make today, you will reap 20 years from now. I take calcium, make a real effort to get physical exercise (including using weights for bone density), and make (mostly) healthy food choices. I hope it will pay off in the long run!
10) Having my son is, was, and will be the most significant, most rewarding, and most joyful thing I’ve ever done in my life.