I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. The love we have for our children is like no other love we’ve experienced. Why is it that it’s so much harder to feel that same way about the people in our everyday lives? Can you imagine what it would feel like to walk around loving others in the same way we love our children?
Unconditional Love & Patience
When it comes to our kids we feel love easily. Even when they’re being a pain, whining about something for the millionth time or doing something we’re not thrilled with, we love them wholeheartedly. Our opinions of them don’t change based on their bad behavior because the love we have for them is truly unconditional.
Can you imagine what it would be like to love, accept and be patient with the people we encounter every day? We’d feel more peaceful, connected to others and our relationships would be much improved.
When we think about our kids, we always want the best for them. I’ve even been saying out loud to my daughter things like “As your mom, I will always be here for you and will do my best to support you however I can.” We generally aren’t competitive with our children or are jealous of them when they experience success. Because we genuinely want them to be happy and find fulfillment.
Can you imagine what it would be like to feel completely supportive of those around you? To let go of jealousy, resentment and the desire for credit? We’d feel uplifted when we think about others because we’d be excited to lift them up.
Seeing Only the Best in Others
We all have faults. No one is perfect (even if we wish we were). When it comes to our children, we have a much easier time seeing the best in them and playing up their strengths while downplaying their weaknesses. We automatically conjure up happy, positive thoughts when we think about them and don’t overly criticize them for their faults.
Can you imagine what it would be like to always see the best in other people? To greet everyone we meet with a smile and positive disposition? We’d feel lighter, less anxious and would be a great source of support for others.
Believing First That Others are Inherently Kind & Good
Not matter what, we believe that our children are fundamentally good people. We see the good in them and never question what kind of person they are, because we love them so deeply.
Can you imagine what it would be like to automatically assume that everyone you encounter is a good person? To just always start from a place of looking for the kindness in others? We’d walk around feeling happier and less worried.
You might be thinking that this entire thing just sounds naïve and silly. I hear you. Perhaps this idea is overly simplistic. But what if, with a lot of work, it’s actually possible to treat people with the same level of compassion, empathy and patience we feel towards our kids?
What a beautiful world that would be.