When you write in a public forum, be it a bulletin board, a web log or even Facebook, you learn to expect comments from people who feel the need to comment just for the sake of commenting. Last week, I wrote a post entitled , “Your Children are Listening.” In it, I made reference to the fact that my self-esteem has been negatively impacted by things that I’ve heard in the past. I was pleasantly surprised that I didn’t receive any negative comments on the post itself, but I did receive two personal comments that caught me off-guard: one was messaged to me via Facebook by someone I don’t know from what appears to be a bogus account; the other was via email from an acquaintance of mine. Here’s an excerpt from one of the comments:
You are setting a poor example for your kids by focusing on your appearance and not demonstrating that you are thankful for what you have. Your posts make it clear that you are not suffering financially in any way, and yet you find something to complain about…
My reaction: HUH??
I’m not offended that they wrote that comment specifically, but I have two questions:
1) Why weren’t the comments posted directly to the post or to Facebook where the post was linked?
2) Was the intent of my post unclear??
In case it was not clear, here was the point of what I wrote: Contrary to what the commenter(s) had to say, it had nothing to do with feeling sorry for myself, or complaining about what I don’t have; it had everything to do with the fact that even if you don’t think your kids hear what you say, they do, and they take it all to heart (for better or for worse).
Your children are like sponges – they observe, they internalize, and they mimic what they see. Case in point, this is what I witnessed about 3 days ago:
“Bubba, clean up your markers and paper. I can’t deal with the mess…”
“Bubba!!!!! I can’t concentrate with all this stuff everywhere.”
(sigh) “OK, OK! Quit nagging me.”
My reaction to hearing this…OMG…THEY.HEAR.EVERYTHING…
Anyway, after reading those comments, I decided that those commenters did have one point – because my kids hear everything, I should make it a point to continually express how fortunate we are to have the things that we have. We should never take for granted the fact that the life that we have been given is a true gift. And while I originally came here to post points of gratitude, I won’t bore you with all of them because I do have many and they’ve all been posted before. Rest assured that know that in the grand scheme of things, we are lucky. Our little worlds, our children, our family, our friends, and our health are all things that give our lives meaning. We are blessed and for this I am truly thankful.
And to the two commenters, I have one comment in response…Well, actually, I take that back – I have no comments because some things are just better left unsaid.