Ever feel like you’re not winning? Like everything you do as a mom is setting your child up for years of therapy? Or are you just feeling mediocre, not having any home runs, just some base hits here and there? I’ve found the solution to all that nonsense.
Whenever you feel like that just say to yourself “I am an awesome mom.”
Call it the power of positive thinking. Call it lying to yourself so you can make it through the day. It doesn’t matter. Just do it and I guarantee you will at least start to feel better.
I spent the better part of winter vacation at home with my daughter. That was a LOT of time together. There were some good moments and some rough ones. But no matter what the day brought I. was. an. awesome. mom. You see, the trick is to tell yourself that you’re awesome when you are AND when you aren’t so that they start to feel the same. Take some of my recent examples:
• Stayed up late for the majority of December nights to creatively place our elf into some adventurous situations. Knew when I couldn’t do it all by myself and asking the hubs for ideas. I. asked. for. help. I am an awesome mom.
• Shopped and planned for the most wonderful Christmas morning that ever existed. It was over in 3.5 seconds followed up by a chorus of “I’m bored!” I am an awesome mom.
• Arranged a play date on New Year’s Day. Ignored the both of them while they played so I could get some much-needed housecleaning done (Ok so I painted my nails. Don’t judge.) I am an awesome mom.
• Sent Zoey to vacation camp for one day so I could go through her beloved toy closet and various tchotchke baskets. Played a covert game of “Goodwill or Garbage” and nothing has been missed yet. I am an awesome mom.
• Played it fast and loose with bedtimes and wake-ups every day of vacation. Woke her ass up and sent her back to school on Monday with a dirty face, unbrushed hair and the sleep still in her eyes. I am an awesome mom.
• Couldn’t remember the last time I gave my girl a shower. Seriously, how long ago was it? Days? Weeks? Gave up on getting her to do it herself and threw her in the shower with me. Two birds, one stone. I am an awesome mom.
Say it with me. “I am an awesome mom.” Don’t let anyone tell you differently. Don’t YOU tell yourself differently. “I am an awesome mom.” If that doesn’t work, take some comfort in the words of the ever-wise Taylor Swift:
I’m dancing on my own (dancing on my own)
I make the moves up as I go (moves up as I go)
And that’s what they don’t know, mmm-mmm
That’s what they don’t know, mmm-mmm
But I keep cruising
Can’t stop, won’t stop grooving
It’s like I got this music
In my mind
Saying, “It’s gonna be alright.”
Yep. Making the moves up as I go. It’s gonna be alright. I am an awesome mom.