I’m away on business this week, as I am often enough. I sat down tonight to write all about how much being a travelling mom can suck. How I miss my babies and feel extreme guilt wondering just how much travel is too much, and how they will think back to this time when they are adults (“Sure, mommy was great, but she was never around”…). But as I contemplated all of those things, I had to stop and think about the moment.
In this moment, as I return from a working dinner 1500 miles away from my sweet little family, my children are fed, teeth brushed, books read, and tucked lovingly into their beds. They are feeling safe, secure, and taken care of. Their world continues spinning – lunches packed, shuttled to school and various activities, dinners made – despite my distance, and that is all due to the most amazing working mom I know.
This working mom does 90% of the school drop offs and pick ups. She’s the go-to parent when school calls alerting us to a sick kid. She does just about all of the homework and most of the dishes as well. She has sacrificed her own career growth for the benefit of my own. She, in a word, is our rock.
As hard as my business travel and late nights at the office are on me, they are, frankly, a luxury. Yes, I do it for the family and our joint growth and success, but the only reason I can do those late nights and trips away is because I have her. I could not have grown in my job as I have, without her by my side, willing and able to hold down the fort while my focus is outside of the home.
So today I’m not going to whine about how hard it is for me to find the perfect work-life balance or how facetime is not nearly a good enough substitute for bed time stories. Instead, I’m going to say thank you to the most incredible working mom I know. My wife and my partner in all things.
I see the sacrifices you have made. I see the selflessness and dedication. I see the long hours (in the car!) and endless battles over completing the reading log. I see the trips to the grocery store with 3 kids in tow. I see the juggled morning routines, and evening baths. I see the paychecks that don’t nearly reflect your worth. I see how much you pour yourself into our sweet family. I see you. I appreciate you. I am so deeply grateful for you.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Photo credit: AKD Photography