As the days and weeks go by, I get lost in my daily routine.

I Wake up…
Get ready for work…
Help my son get ready for school…
Feed him breakfast…
Rush out the door…
Drop him off at preschool…
Rush to the office (because I’m usually late) and begin my work day.
After work I pick him up…
Head home…
Begin dinner preparations…
Do house work…
Eat dinner…
Get him bathed…
Clean up while he plays…
Then settle him in for bedtime.
At the end of it all, I may have an hour or two of “me time” where I nod off while trying to relax and watch Netflix … then head to bed.

Wake up … repeat.

As I am sure many of you hard working moms can relate, the daily rat race of managing work life and home life can get mundane. I tend to get buried in the process of it all, and in doing so, I lose myself. I begin to think and feel as though I am failing at life in general and feel myself sinking into a depressive state.

Even though I try to change things up every so often by planning activities with friends or family, most of the time I feel like I’m on a hamster wheel. I used to be the kind of person that would make sure to read affirmations and keep my mind focused and positive. Now with the demands of my job and the demands of my child, I have lost that part of myself. I get wrapped up in worrying about paying my bills, or get stuck thinking about what I need to do next to make life work so I don’t fall into some kind of crisis, that I forget to remind myself that I am actually doing okay.

As a working mother I NEED to make sure that I check in with myself in order to recharge my internal battery and to keep myself from sinking into depression. I have developed a checklist of the things that I have found important for me to remember.

1. Career / Job
I have been able to sustain a career that challenges me in many ways and has helped me grow as a person. I am able to help people in ways that make an impact in their lives and for this I am grateful and therefore successful.

2. Paying Bills
Although this is a challenge for me at times, I am able to pay my bills every month. As much as I hate this part of life, it has to be done, and I am able to do it successfully in order to make a home for my son.

3. Family and Friends
I have family and friends that I love and that love me and my son. We may not spend a lot of time together but the times that we do, fun memories are made.

4. Extra Money
I don’t make much money however I have developed a financial plan that works for me where I can sometimes have a little extra to treat myself, my son or others.

5. Taking trips
Whether its a day trip, a weekend trip, or a trip away once a year for a long vacation. All that matters is that I am able to do so and make great memories with my son.

6. A Home
I don’t live in a mansion nor do I need to in order to be happy and make my son happy. I am able to maintain a nice, comfortable place for him and I to lay our heads every night.

7. Basic Needs
So often do we forget that the basic things such as clothes, food, and health and beauty aids are things to be thankful for. I work with people that struggle to maintain these things for their families. I have to remind myself that I am able to provide my son and myself with the necessities for life.

8. My Child
He alone reminds me daily that I am doing pretty well. I have been successful in keeping my kid alive, in one piece and happy. He is always smiling, with ease he talks to me about his day and what bothers him, and I am able to meet all of his needs.

As long as I keep these things in mind, I am able to refocus my thought process and remind myself that I am not failing at life, I am actually doing pretty well given my circumstances and therefore…I am successful.

“Life is made up of small pleasures. Happiness is made up of those tiny successes. The big ones come too infrequently. And if you don’t collect all these tiny successes, the big ones don’t really mean anything.” ~Norman Lear

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