I don’t know about you, but sometimes, I feel like my life verges on monotony. Go to work, come home, deal with stuff,
go to bed pass out on the couch, wake up, and begin again. It’s easy to get stuck in routine – which, admittedly, is great for kids, but not so great for adults.
It could be as simple as cooking the same meals week-after-week, or spending weekend nights glued to Netflix. But this Groundhog Day existence isn’t healthy – for you, your partner, or your kids. Sometimes you have to shake things up, consider a different path, and make a brave choice to re-imagine your life.
That’s a pretty bold statement.
It’s easy to get sucked into an easy, predictable life. It’s actually kinda comfortable. You know what to expect – even if it doesn’t necessarily feel all that great. Perhaps your relationship has lost the spark, maybe your job isn’t super engaging, or you’re just used to doing something a certain way – do you accept the status quo because it’s easy? Most people do. I did. It’s simply easier to deal with the devil you know, than the devil you don’t.
What happens when you shake things up – take risks to live more fully and more authentically? At first, it’s terrifying! You imagine every worst-case scenario and ask yourself, “What if…” But the bigger question is, “What if you don’t…”
What if you don’t speak to your partner from your heart, revealing yourself at your most vulnerable? What if you don’t accept that job that could provide a springboard to professional growth and achievement? What if you don’t plan that “buck list” trip now, rather than waiting until you retire? A life filled with regrets seems so much sadder than a life filled with the joy and experience that risk offers. I asked myself this question – and, consequently, related it back to my son – what kind of life do I want him to lead…what’s the example that I’m setting?
We encourage our kids to try new things – to take risks, to enjoy life – shouldn’t we want the same for ourselves? Be brave, make the choice to embrace life in all it’s messy, beautiful-ness.
What have you wanted to do, but have been afraid to try? Ask yourself if the risk of “What if?” outweighs the joy of “I did” – you might just open the door to a more fulfilling life.