Confident mommy shouldn’t be an oxymoron.
I’m self-conscious about a lot of things. My weight, my frequently messy house, my 401k, my complete inability to make small-talk or a good cup of coffee. But one thing I’m not self-conscious about is my ability to be a good mom. I’m good at this gig damnit.
And I’m willing to bet that you are too.
But why don’t all the good moms know how good they are? One of my friends on Facebook recently made a comment along the lines of“Does any mother ever feel good enough?!” What I wanted to reply was: “Yes! And you should too!”, but I was intimidated by the chorus of “Of course not”s and “No mother ever feels good enough for her kids”.
What is with this epidemic of self-doubt in motherhood? I know that self-consciousness, insecurity, and doubt are nothing new to women in our society. In fact, it’s a multi-million dollar industry. But it’s so sad to me the number of women in my life who spend more time questioning themselves than they do admiring their happy and healthy children.
Listen, I know motherhood is scary, overwhelming, and shitloads of pressure (oh, just creating a human here, no big). There are days when I screw up, I don’t know what to say or do, I lose every shred of patience and poise, but I know that all of that is still encompassed within the definition of a good parent. Even when I’m tested to my very limits, I know that I’m good enough. And I think you should too. There is a reason you have been blessed with the children you have today. We are strong, multifaceted, accomplished women raising the next generation. We got this!
I’ve talked a lot about how my journey to and through motherhood has humbled me, and goodness knows it has. But, I’ve also never felt more capable, beautiful, and exactly where I am meant to be. It’s so nice to be able to pack away the insecurities for a bit.