When I found out that I was going to be writing for CT Working Moms, every encounter became a possible blog post topic. Suddenly my daily actions and interactions were met with my inner voice telling me to blog about it! But before I jump into various thoughts and musings about my life as a CT working mom, I thought it best to first set the stage.
I am a 37-year old mother to an 18-month old daughter and step-mom to 11 ½ year old twins, a boy and a girl. The number of life changes I have experienced in the last seven years are substantial. Up until the age of 30, I was living a carefree life of minimal responsibility. I spent most of my 20’s living in Washington, D.C. with college friends. I worked full-time and got my Master’s degree during that time but other than that, my obligations were minimal. My weeknight activities, when not in class, consisted of going to happy hour or the gym. Weekends were spent recovering from nights out at the bar, catching up on television, and hanging out with friends. Laundry was done occasionally, grocery shopping was filling up a hand-held basket at Trader Joe’s and house cleaning was done…let’s say, periodically.
In 2008, in the midst of some personal and professional dissatisfaction, I made the decision to move back to my home state of CT. Within six months of being back, I started dating a newly divorced man with two small children (more on that in a future post). A year later we were engaged and living all together in a rental home. My husband and I got married in 2010, bought a home in 2011 and in November 2013, our daughter was born. While all positive and amazing life changes, at times these events have felt like ocean waves; just when I think I have crested over the top of one, another comes and smacks me in the face. Only recently have I had the ability to pause, tread water, and look back at how much has changed for me in the last seven years. While at times I may yearn for the freedom and solitary time of the 30-year old me, I also remember the loneliness that I often carried around with me. Riding up and over these waves has resulted in a life that is full of love, chaos, little downtime, lots of laughs and tears of joy; one thing it is not is lonely.
My future posts will go deeper into some of these life changes, including the challenges of being a step-parent, the journey that brought my daughter into the world, and the high wire act of balancing work/personal life/toddler/tweens/marriage. I hope to provide my own perspective on the common experience of parenting that we all share. Thank you for reading!
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