They say that shared joy is double joy and shared sorrow is half a sorrow. Well, if that’s the case, then I guess there’s nothing left to do but have a good laugh over mother-in-law-isms with people who can relate.
I’ve been a member of an online mom group for nearly five years. It’s a group of women from all over the country, all walks of life, with a spectrum of different life experiences. But that common thread of motherhood is the tie that binds us. We share advice, Christmas / birthday / holiday gift ideas, and concerns about weird rashes and high fevers. We vent, listen, and usually end up sharing laugh.The other day, one of these lovely ladies just had to share about a frustrating mother-in-law (MIL) experience she had. She mentioned to her MIL that she’d been up all night with a screaming 10-day-old infant and was met with, “Ooh, sounds like somebody is already getting spoiled being held all the time.” She laughingly suggested writing a book titled “Things I Swear I Will Never Say To My Daughter-In-Law” and was welcoming contributions. And indeed, those submissions started rolling in.
** After arriving back home with a five-day-old baby: “You really should learn to have food and drinks on hand when you have visitors.”
** “If you stop nursing Gavin, he won’t grow up to be as healthy and smart as [MIL’s sons].”
** “You look much bigger this pregnancy than you did with Gabby.”
** Six weeks after her son was born, her MIL gave her a 2X tee shirt and said, “Hopefully, you’ll fit into it soon.” She was only in a large.
** “All this breastfeeding is causing women to have cancer.”
** “You know, Katie, he really is an easy baby, you’re making this hard.”
**” You’re going back to work? He doesn’t make enough so you can stay home?”
After a good laugh and some virtual hugs, most of these moms agreed that we’re pretty lucky to have these MILs in our lives. And as moms that are finding ourselves uttering things that we swore we would never say, it’s incredibly likely that we may one day also become mothers-in-law that eat our words!
**And for the record, may it be known that I LOVE my mother-in-law! 🙂