In 5th grade I was assigned the task of compiling a story book of my then, 10 short years of life. I painstakingly choose flattering pictures of myself, family, and friends and carefully placed them in a photo album that surely did not have acid free photo paper. I wrote paragraphs detailing my carefree days of playing soccer, taking dance lessons, and spending summers on the Connecticut shoreline. My mom can be credited with titling my “book”: The Never-Say-Good bye Girl. I have fond memories of growing up as part of a big family during a time when my parents would often host our family’s frequent gatherings held to celebrate any event that warranted multiple ricotta cheese stuffed entrees. There was a lot of loud “talking” and “singing” that resulted from the homemade wine being dished out. Cousins played games of our own invention late into the evening. As the parties wound down one would hope my relatives would be of the right mind and fortitude to make an appropriate exit. That is to say: Leave the house without letting Anissa know. Sounds strange, I know, but very necessary. I would throw an absolute fit when anyone would leave our house. My out bursts weren’t geared to any one person or group of people in particular. There was no known trigger other than hearing the bell hanging from my...Read More
Author: Anissa Berasi
There are certain experiences when people are more likely to reflect on their place in this world, what has been, and what will be: births, deaths, birthdays, birthdays that are nice round numbers, birthdays with particular milestone significance…. A while back CT Working Moms did a series showcasing ‘Lessons Learned’ from each of the bloggers. In honor of my recent birthday, I am resurrecting the idea, but before I drop some knowledge, I would like to take a moment to thank my colleague who often comments that: “you don’t ever age.” Thank you to my friends under the age of 35 who still let me hang with them and make me feel young by association. Thank you to my older friends who make me feel young because, well, I am younger than you – Love ya! Mean it! And to all the bar tenders that will ever card me from this day forward – It is very much appreciated. This, my friends, is 35. Love at first sight is real. Accept “good enough” for the stuff that doesn’t matter. Financial priorities: 1) Family Vacations, 2) Retirement, 3) Everything else. Children are perceptive. They feed off your energy. If you set a positive tone, they will follow. Most people are doing the best they can. Doing laundry is the easiest way I make myself feel productive without actually making a legit effort....Read More
Eliza, my littlest and last baby, turned two yesterday. She is officially a toddler and running full speed ahead leaving her (and my) baby days further behind with each lackadaisical step while I am left standing in the spot where so many parents stand each year wondering: where the time has gone?! It’s been two years since I met Eliza. I still can’t believe she’s mine or remember how I was able to breathe without her. Two years since she blessed our lives and captured our hearts. Our family has found a new kind of love. The first year was anything but easy. From medical setbacks to family dynamics we’ve had tough times and I freely admit, there were moments, like I never experienced before, when I was so overwhelmed, anxious, and scared. I was always thankful for what I had and I fought like hell to be able to enjoy it and really live it along side my awesome boys and adorable baby girl. Getting a clean bill of health 6 weeks post partum Feeling vulnerable and asking for support Finding quiet moments with Noah, Zachary, and Eliza Challenging myself to build back my confidence Letting go of perfection Remembering who I am And now? I couldn’t be more proud of where we are and how far we’ve come. What a fantastic feeling of strength to know that...Read More
FACT: 2014 was the first full year that I wasn’t pregnant for any part of the year since 2008. 2008. That’s a lifetime ago. I have spent the last seven years of my life thinking about getting pregnant, being pregnant, and having babies. I am blessed beyond measure with my crew of little ones and it is safe to say I no longer have babies on the brain. This fun fact got me thinking of the somewhat predictable schedule that is my life. Let’s take a quick trip down memory lane: February 2004: Start dating my future husband November 2004: Buy a condo and move in with future husband October 2005: Get engaged September 2006: Get married October 2007: Build a house and move May 2008: Complete my graduate degree September 2008: Get pregnant May 2009: Have Noah July 2010: Get pregnant April 2011: Have Zachary October 2012: Move into forever home AND get pregnant July 2013: Have Eliza As you can see, my husband and I have had a major life event every year since we have known each other (without including work related highlights). Our decade together has been spent experiencing, in my opinion, the upper echelon of life experiences. When someone would ask me: “What’s going on?” I always had a really good answer. We’ve lived milestone to milestone and although I wouldn’t change a thing...Read More
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