I never fully appreciated how much the general public feels they may comment freely on your personal life and choices until I became a parent. As anyone with kids has probably learned, everyone seems to have tips to share, even if they’re unsolicited: sleep, feeding, dressing, childcare etc…the list goes on. I can tune most of it out, but one that always bothered me was hearing how I should approach my marriage after kids. People I was barely acquaintances with, articles, books, etc. all felt the need to deliver the message that my marriage should come before my children or it was doomed to fail. Lack of “date nights” and babies sleeping in my bed were surely the death knell for us as a couple, so watch out! Don’t let the kids divide you! “Don’t forget that you were his wife before you were their mother,” a woman once told me.