Nora didn’t sleep through the night until she was past one and a half years old. This was mostly due to the fact that I nursed her on demand for that time (and even a year past that) which meant if she wanted to nurse in the middle of the night, I’d do so.
However, when my husband would put Nora to sleep while we were weaning – so that I wasn’t there for the temptation to nurse to sleep – bedtime became a series of excuses for why I wasn’t the one to put her to bed. This pattern continued well past weaning. When I decided to go back to school, the excuse became an easy one – Mom has to go to school tonight. We used this excuse whether I was meeting up with a friend, fitting in a Pilates class or, in fact, heading to class or to study, because Nora understood that school was important to me and for our family and for her it was an “acceptable” reason for me not to snuggle her to sleep.read more