All I want is…

Oct 17, 2014 by

Do you know what I long for the most now that I am a mother?

It isn’t all the extra money we had, or how I used to be able to take my time getting ready in the morning, or even the freedom to do whatever I wanted whenever I wanted it.

What I miss the most are….

NAPS!

Doesn't he look so peaceful...We both miss our naps

Doesn’t he look so peaceful…We both miss our naps

I miss the days that if I felt tired or overworked I could lay down in complete silence close my eyes and drift off to slumber land. Even better I could take a nap for as long as I wanted.

Sometimes it was a quick nap of 45 mins and other days (usually after a fun night) I would nap for 3 hours!

As I type this it doesn’t even seem real.

3 GLORIOUS hours.

Mothering is easier with a village..

Oct 10, 2014 by

Let’s be honest PARENTING is hard. Your life changes in this huge, wonderful, tiring, crazy way and many times you can feel very isolated. At the dawn of time when there were tribes this was when a village was the most prominent. Mothers, neighbors and families helped each other, if not lived with each other to help nurture the family unit but more importantly help them survive.

I know America doesn't look like this anymore.

I know America doesn’t look like this anymore. Photo credit

I know today living in a first world country like America there is less of a need to “survive” but it is sad that we have made parenting a very isolating event. Some people (like myself) are very blessed to have a close family who we can depend on for support but I also have widened the net to my neighbors.

Is parenting today slowly killing our marriages?

Oct 3, 2014 by

This week I read a very thought-provoking piece called “How American Parenting is killing the American marriage” by Danielle and Astro Teller. This piece truly spoke to me on many levels and I basically agreed with 99% of the content.

The gist of the whole article is that at some point between the previous generation and today’s parents we’ve shifted from trying to create a self-sufficient functioning adult to holding up parenting as a religion. We have somehow put our children on pedestals worshiping nothing else besides them. With this shift the american marriage has suffered.

The idea that if you ever speak ill of your child you’re blasphemous and to not constantly put them first makes it seem like you do not love “the gods” aka children enough. Even worse if you do not put all of your time, focus and love on the “gods” then you are not a good parent. Because of this trend most marriages in America are not surviving or having major issues.

Two Parents sick = Worst time ever

Sep 19, 2014 by

One of the things I despise the most about adult hood is the fact that when you are sick you do not have your parents there to take care of you. I remember in graduate school I came down with the FLU. It was a week of hell and while my sister would check in on me (we lived together) and also my boyfriend (now husband) it was not the same as the tender loving care parents give to their sick young.

Fast forward to becoming a parent yourself and then get sick.

WORST TIME EVER!

I brought home an awful cold/sinus infection and was praying that it wouldn’t spread. I washed my hands every day but like every other responsible adult I still went to work. I felt like dog crap the first few days but let’s be honest the kids do not give a shit that you feel like….shit.

How my work review should really go…

Sep 12, 2014 by

It is that time again ladies! It is mid year review time. I personally have never been a huge fan of reviews. I understand why we have them and why they are important but nonetheless I get weirded out by flashing my accomplishments and of course my shortcomings on paper to talk about over and over again.

As I was working on my current one, I realized that the review itself does not really depict my whole self and how HARD I really work, especially as a working mother.  I keep my whole review one sided, never bringing in the struggles that I battle at home on a daily basis.

So when I state that I closed a huge deal with a client I should have added that I did it on the last day before my due date, extremely fucking pregnant and miserable. I was able to pull this deal through with hips that felt like they were cracking and a bladder the size of a peanut. I did not waiver in my loyalty to work even though I hadn’t seen my toes in months.

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