Slowing Carving out a Space for Me

Jul 17, 2014 by

I love being a mom more than anything else in the world.  Being the center of my family, a steadfast need-filler, has finally closed the loop and answered the question, “Who am I?”  However, while parenting has brought me a great sense of purpose and identity, I feel like I’m occasionally teeter-tottering on the edge of being swallowed whole.  Being a mom can be so all-consuming that I’ve found it easy to get lost in it.  After 4 years of parenting my trio, I started to see pieces of myself slipping away.  While so much of my identity is now built on them, I didn’t want to lose all of who I was before they came on the scene.

Teaching Children About Poverty

Jul 10, 2014 by

A friend of mine recently published an article in the Washington Post (This is what happened ...) about her experience using food stamps via the WIC program.  Her decent into poverty was a swift one, and the image so vividly painted in the article is of her arriving to pick up WIC checks in a Mercedes.  Her story has elicited a highly-charged response full of both criticism and praise but, at the core, it is a call for non-judgment.  A reminder of how any one of us could have found ourselves in those shoes – and being poor does not come with an open invitation to criticize.  You don’t know until you take the time to get to know.

The heart of her message is this:

A Roller Coaster of Emotions

Jul 3, 2014 by

Have you ever thought about how many emotions you experience in any given day as a mom?  A true emotional roller coaster! It’s no wonder that my sanity is barely hanging on by a thread after 5 years of this daily game of feelings gymnastics. Take today for example…

This morning was supposed to be my “get up and go” day.  My spouse and I each have one of these a week. They are awesome! On these days I’m not responsible for getting any of the kids ready or shuttling to school/camp/wherever.  I wake up joyfully singing of freedom!

The emotions turn when I notice that my spouse underestimated the time needed to get the kids ready and the babysitter is picking them up early (ie: in 15 minutes) and they are not even dressed! Joy becomes annoyance and anger.  With much frustration, I give up the spare time I would have had for a stop at Starbucks and whip whiny kids into shape with a flurry of hair brushes, toothpaste, Crocs and scrambled eggs.

Teaching Children Conflict Resolution

Jun 19, 2014 by

First Day/Last day of 2cd Grade!

First Day/Last day of School!

Just like that, we have wrapped up our first trip through 2cd grade.  It felt like such a pivotal year…I sent my son in as little boy and he came back to me a full-blown big kid.  The BIG IDEAS that come out of this child amaze me and the glimpses of adult-like maturity catch me off guard every time.  We also saw a lot of change in peer-to-peer relationships this year.  For the first time, my son really cared what his classmates thought of him and any conflicts that arose were personal.  Gone are the days of 30 second brawls that are forgotten with the blink of an eye.  Now, we have fights and silent treatments and “I’m not going to be your friend any more”‘s and rallying teams against your opponent.  ::sigh:: Whoever said that boys have less drama than girls LIED.

Short Term Annoyance…Long Term Asset

Jun 5, 2014 by

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It has been one of those weeks around here.  You know the ones…my kids are acting like a bunch of wild…well, kids…and I keep wishing that they would just sit still and talk softly and act more like adults for a bit.  Good luck with that, right?

As I was practicing my deep breathing techniques (aka: pouring a glass of wine once they were, it occurred to me that some of what frustrates me most now about their personalities, will truly be assets for them in the future.  Take my son for example…

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