May Peace Find You

Dec 18, 2014 by

hands2The holiday season may be merry, bright, chaotic, and joyful for many, but for those struggling with infertility or loss, it can be a cold and lonely time that is particularly hard to bear. I know because I’ve been there.  If you are newer to my story, my wife and I struggled with infertility for nearly two years. We both attempted to conceive, unsuccessfully, but the lengths she went to were far greater than I because of the desire she carried in her heart.  She, like many women, just assumed she’d get pregnant one day and have a child. It was a given.  I mean, why wouldn’t it be?  Women get pregnant and have babies every day.  But month after month, hope soared only to be dashed.  Worst roller coaster ride of our lives. She would eventually undergo many different procedures in our attempt to conceive including two attempts at in vitro fertilization (IVF). We walked away from it all with no baby bump and no answers.  They called it Unexplained Infertility…we just called it brokenhearted.

Don’t Forget Your Tool Box

Dec 11, 2014 by

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This isn’t my actual toolbox, but mine is just like it…except disorganized, rusty, and I’m not exactly sure where it is right now. #life

I’m big on metaphors.  I think they can be useful for putting emotionally-charged topics into perspective.  One metaphor I find myself going back to frequently is my ‘parenting toolbox’.  That mental space in which I keep my various parenting tricks and strategies. This metaphor probably feels very natural to me because 99% of the time I am reaching for my actual toolbox, it is because of something my kids did…

Just like the array of tools available to tackle the various household projects we may be faced with, it can be useful to have a number of different strategies to combat the tiffs, issues, and power struggles we can find ourselves in with our kids on a daily basis. I’ve come to learn that there is no one method that will work with every child every time.  My money is on versatility as the real trick to parenting without losing your mind.

Developing the Home-School Partnership

Dec 4, 2014 by

school-crossing-signSo often, especially as a female, I question myself about overreacting or making a bigger deal out of something than it needs to be.  When it comes to my kids’ school, I worry about being ‘that mom’.  And then there’s all the talk of parents these days being overly hands on, to the point of stifling their children’s autonomy and ability to solve problems themselves. Unfortunately, all that has become the voice in the back of my mind and makes me question my instincts to intervene and advocate when problems arise in school. But what I’ve come to realize over the course of my children’s schooling is that proactively addressing issues or bringing my children’s needs to the attention of the school is not helicopter parenting.  Schools and teachers welcome communication from parents.  After all, how can they be expected to address a problem they don’t know exists?

4 Things I’m Loving Right Now

Nov 13, 2014 by

1. Rent the Runway

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Clearly I have a thing for lace…

You’ve heard of this, yes? If not, please go check it out immediately. And do not let the supermodels on the homepage scare you off, you are in the right place! In sum, this website allows you to rent designer dresses.  They offer a wide range of prices, starting right around $35, and a wide range of sizes (with more being added all the time).  I spend a good 80% of my life feeling frumpy and unfashionable, so when those RTR boxes arrive at my house there may actually be a squeal or two.  What mom doesn’t need a chance to get glammed up and feel pretty once in a while?!

2. Treat

Special Souls

Nov 6, 2014 by

IMG_9011.JPGThere is just something so magical to me about inter-generational friendship and connection.  It speaks to me about the universality of humanity.  Souls from different places in time, seek each other out, and click together as perfectly fitting puzzle pieces.

Everyone in our family loves my wife’s grandmother, Bubby.  Bubby has that magical way of sharing a unique relationship with each person she loves.  She’s really great at making you feel special. But with my middle daughter, there is something a little extra there.  She has a special smile and twinkle in her eye just for “her” Bubby – the Bubby that she has demanded to visit, at least weekly, since she was old enough to talk.  Seeing these two together…well, it’s simply kismet.

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