Communicating Love in Your Child’s Language

Apr 16, 2015 by

Have you all heard of the concept of the 5 Love Languages?  Introduced in 1995 via his book of the same title, Gary Chapman suggested that people communicate love in 5 basic ways. Knowing your own love language and that of your partner helps couples express love in the most effective way. The categories are: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. If you are interested, there are about 101 quizes online to determine your love language.

I didn’t even need to take the quiz to peg my wife and I. I am a classic ‘acts of service girl’.  I’ll never forget how loved I felt when my wife woke up early on a Saturday to shovel the driveway and ensure that I could get to a hair appointment I had been really looking forward to. And my wife? Well she is 110% ‘physical touch’.  It is helpful for us to know this about the other so she doesn’t look at me like I’m crazy when I comment that seeing her wash the dishes is sexy…and I can strive for a bit more patience and understanding when she is SUFFOCATINGME.

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Bedwetting – More Common Than You Think

Apr 2, 2015 by

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Because I would never be the type of mom to embarrass her kids on the internet (ha!), let’s establish at the onset of this post that all first-hand knowledge shared here has been provided by a friend. Yeah, that’s it…a friend…

So, bedwetting. Natural! Common! and A-OK! The truth is, no matter how much of a rock star mom you are (and I know you are), your kid’s ability to stay dry at night is 100% a function of biological development and readiness. If your kid was night trained at 18 months – you rock. And, if your kid wears pull-ups to bed at age 6 – you also rock! Science suggests that most bedwetting is inherited and we have even identified specific genes connected to delayed nighttime bladder control.

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My Love/Hate Relationship With Being Needed

Mar 19, 2015 by

In the hour between the kids waking up, and sending them off to school this morning, I heard the following:

“I need you to sign my field trip permission slip.”

“I need you to cut my pancakes.”

“I need you to make my cup of milk.”

“I need you to wipe my tushy.”

“I need you to tie my shoes.”

“I need you to help me with my homework.”

“I need you to help me get dressed.”

“I need you to grab eggs at the store.”

And on, and on, and on.

One time my spouse and I played a game to see how many times the 3 children would say “mommy” in a 30 minute time span.  We lost count shortly before losing our minds.

If there is one common denominator to the experience of motherhood, it is being NEEDED.

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What Makes a Good Foster Parent?

Mar 5, 2015 by

I’ve been asked that question before and always felt caught off guard.  Who am I to say? Our foster journey was brief, relatively speaking, and though we do hope to return someday, I’m still trying to figure it all out.

It seems to me that the best way to answer that question is to go right to the source. To ask the children. While we were getting licensed to be foster parents, I came across a powerful blog. It is written by a former foster child, now twenty-something, who is trying to figure out life without a family.  Her foster care story is honest, infuriating, and all too common.  Having lived in 12 different foster/group homes, I’d say she is the perfect person to answer this question.

Here’s her list of what makes a good foster parent: caring, interest, patience, steadiness, creativity, ability to put one’s self in the child’s shoes, humor, willingness to teach and learn, advocacy, smiling, close listening, honesty…

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This Is Why We Can’t Have Nice Things

Feb 26, 2015 by

Parents everywhere know that parenting can be summed up into 8 little words…

Forgive me for a moment, because I’m about to go on an epically first world rant…Why, why, why do my children insist on destroying everything in my house???

I’m having a moment this week because my wife recently informed me that after 15 years of going to college, grad school, first apartment, new jobs, second apartment, first house, marriage, kids, another kid, and more new jobs, she needs a couple years to just *be*.

When she said this, I was all…

::blankstare::

Because, as you can gather from the list above, I’m not really a “just be” kinda gal. Forward progression is my thing and I’m thinking we should round out that list with ‘second house’ right about now.  But, I like my marriage and my wife is pretty cute so we are going to try being for a bit.

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