Author: Elise Schreier

Let Them Fail

Being achievement-oriented with perfectionistic tendencies, I have read enough parenting books and articles to know early on that I would need to make a conscious effort to allow my children opportunities to fail. I truly believe that getting good at making mistakes is a key element to being successful in life.  It wasn’t so hard when they were little and the stakes where low, but as my children get older it gets harder and harder to bite my tongue, sit back, and let them roll with the punches.  I still do it, mind you, but finding that proper balance between being supportive and being a crutch is is a much finer line. A few weekends ago, my resolve was really put to the test.  My son is in his first year of competitive gymnastics.  This whole new world that has opened up to us (FYI: Its called a leo NOT a leotard…and oh btw, and its $100 for the 6″x6″ piece of stretchy fabric ::sideeye::) has been fun, exciting, and chalk full of learning opportunities at every bend. In January, my son and some boys from his team competed in a large regional competition at the XL Center.  His previous competition was a much smaller, local one so this felt a lot like the “real deal”.  At his first comp he came home with fistfuls of ribbons and bursting with...

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If I could only get a glimpse…

One of the tough things for me as a parent is that very little of the work of parenting yields immediate feedback. Parenting has a long end-game and no one really ever knows how well they are doing until the bulk of the work is done. Sure, there are hints along the way, but I don’t yet fully know who my children will become. Part of this is exciting, as I get to “meet” a little more of my babies every day, but part of this is scary…as you might be able to gather, I’m not so good with unknowns. Am I balancing my career and my family as well as I think I am? Or when they look back on their childhood, will there be a business-trip-shaped void? Am I striking the right balance between being firm and respectful in my discipline? Are my frequent compliments making them self-confident or self-absorbed? How are our house rules and my modelling shaping the development of their eating/work/spending habits? Okay, yes, I know I may be over-thinking this a bit.  After all, today my children are happy, healthy, and thriving. But there is still such a question mark about what the future will hold for them. Surely there will be struggles and difficult times, but how will the foundation I am laying for them now stack up later? Will they be happy, healthy, well-adjusted adults? Will their strengths...

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Gaining Peace with My Weight Loss Journey

I’m really good at losing weight. I’ve done it hundreds of times, including that time I lost nearly 70lbs before my wedding! And, yet, I’ve never been thin. You see, am your classic yo-yo dieter.  I can’t even tell you the number of times I have flirted with the same 20-30lbs.  Up (busyness, holidays, stress, babies, vacations, heath issues, and just plain old apathy) and down (weight watchers, Whole 30, Paleo, 21 day fix, My Fitness Pal, supplements, shakes, fat blockers, and the list goes on…). For a long time, I classified my weight loss journey as a complete and total disaster. No matter how well I was able to find success in other areas of my life, in this, I failed again and again and again.  When people complimented me on my weight loss I began to say things like, “Yeah, well, we’ll see if it sticks.” But my wife, who has seen me cycle through the ups and downs many times in our 16 years together, has a different reply. She simply – sweetly – says, “You always go back to it.”  What I saw for so long as a weakness, she viewed at a strength.  As the peace creeps in, I’m starting to see it that way, too. The truth is, despite my struggles with my weight being such a prominent, and visible, part of my life over...

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Tips for Talking to Your Kids about Politics

More than 12 months out from the 2016 presidential election and the political circus already appears to be in full gear.  We’ve got candidates coming out our ears, Facebook memes, and slanted reporting in every direction. It’s overwhelming, but to be honest, I kind of love it.  Sure, it can bring out the most obnoxious and judgmental in all of us but at least people care and have a voice with which to air their opinions. I’ll never forget the day in 2012 when my son, a first-grader at the time, came home and asked me who I was voting for for president. What?? How could he not know?! I felt passionately about “my” candidate and I’m pretty sure *everyone* knew who I was voting for…except, apparently, my son.  How could we not have talked about it? It really opened my eyes to the importance of having these conversations with my children.  Politics don’t have to be a dirty four letter word and I take my responsibility of raising the next generation of voters seriously! So, from that point forward, I’ve made a point of discussing politics with my crew and here are a few tips I have gathered along the way: 1. Be respectful. The political arena is the perfect place to model how we can disagree with someone while still acting in a way we can be...

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4 Questions I Ask My Children Every Day

Good communication is important in all aspects of my life, but nowhere more so than in parenting. Developing relationships with my children in which we communicate openly is my hill to die on.  I mean, what else would you expect from a lesbian mom-blogger with a psych degree?? #mykidsaresoscrewed My actions don’t always fit my goals (we are perpetually running late for something and 5 minutes of listening to my kid yammer on about Lego Chima is about 4 minutes too many) but I really do try.  To help me on my quest, I’ve come up with a set of questions that I ask my children nearly every day, usually around the dinner table or in the car (same thing, right?).  These questions seem to really get to the heart of it and spur meaningful dialogue that gives me an insight into their thoughts and feelings. 1. What was the best part of your day? My favorite.  What makes you feel joy? What makes your heart sing? As all parents know, I receive happiness through the happiness of my children and every day when I drive home from work, I look forward to the answer to this question.  I love knowing exactly what made my child smile the biggest that day. I especially love it when they answer, “When you came home!” (even if they are just working me over...

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