Author: Elise Schreier

Spending Time with 3

There is a mom-of-3 theme going on here today! One of the things I love most about having a bigger family is the way I get to nurture distinct relationships with each of my children.  The three of them are so alike in many ways – they are fun, happy, and always up for an adventure – but, they are definitely their own people and different in many wonderful ways as well.  I get asked a lot about how I find the time to spend with them all.  How do I work, cook, clean, run errands and still divide my time to make sure they all get the attention children crave?  Well, it’s a constant work in progress, but here are some helpful tips and tricks I’ve picked up along the way… Make the most of every minute.  Yeah, I know it can be kind of annoying to have a 2 year old “help cook” dinner, but those 10 or 15 minutes go a long way.  So every day, I try to give each child an opportunity to be my special helper for something.  It’s usually for the most mundane things (cooking dinner, running to the store, doing laundry, setting the table, putting out pjs and clothes for the next day, ect) but they LOVE it.  Not only do they get the joy of helping mommy (please tell me this...

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You Get the Kids You are Meant to Have – Part 2

So last week I shared with you part of the story of how my family came to be.  It’s a great story that I’m really proud to “own”.  But there is a big piece of that story that I haven’t yet shared with you.  The piece of the story that goes like this: It was so hard and I was so freaking scared. And no, I’m not talking about the infertility or the reunification talks, the long waits or the emotional rollercoaster of unknowns. I’m talking about the parenting.  I’ve dreamt of being a mother since I was young.  I knew it was my life’s goal.  I worked with children from the youngest age I possibly could and studied child psychology with a specialty in behavior modification.  And yet, during that long, cold December when a 6 week old and a 3 year old were dropped at my doorstep, I quickly came to realize that I had no idea what I was doing. The baby screamed all night long and the 3 year old screamed all day long.  I still have a visceral memory of flushed cheeks and ringing ears for days on end.  It seemed as though nothing I did would ever stop the tantrums.  How could I? This poor child has experienced more trauma and who-knows-what in his short life than I ever had. I was in way over my head...

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A Day in the Life of a Working Mom – Elise

Its been a while since we’ve had a contribution to the ‘Day in the Life’ series so I decided to give it a go! 6:30 – My wife’s alarm goes off.  Actually, it probably went off a while ago but I finally hear it after a few snoozes.  She heads off to the shower while I check my email. Odd, I don’t hear the girls yet. 6:40 – Wife races upstairs to remind me that I need to put a car seat back in the SUV so she can take our son to daycare.  I curse myself and my darn procrastination.  The SUV is filled to the brim with stuff from our big adoption party last weekend so the next 15 minutes is spent cleaning it out AND installing the car seat.  Far too much exertion for a pre-coffee Elise. 6:55 – Back in the house, time to give one of our dogs her eye drops.  Have I mentioned that along with our 3 adopted children we have 3 adopted dogs?  My wife likes to joke that my next big project will be a documentary called ‘Addicted to Adoption’ but I totally googled that shit and there are plenty of people who have adopted way more than me. So there. 7:00 – I still don’t hear the girls – that’s craziness.  I take advantage by hopping in the shower....

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You Get the Kids You Are Meant to Have

Alternative title: Never lose hope. As the new gal on the block, I figured I’d give a little intro post before I delved into pressing topics such as how my children love to embarrass me on the regular and why pinterest was created simply to make me feel like a terrible, underachieving mother (amiright??).  So the basics are: my wife and I live pretty typical life with our 3 beautiful children. Unfortunately (or fortunately?) the way we came to be wasn’t quite so typical… When we were in the planning stages, it was always our intent to foster (possibly to adopt, but not necessarily) and to have my wife (Andrea) conceive using donor sperm from a bank.  So three years ago we started out on both paths simultaneously. and then life happened. That first year was a nightmare.  The process to get licensed to foster was horrendously drawn out due to a number of systemic issues and at the same time, we were discovering my wife’s unexplained infertility with many unsuccessful months of trying.  It was a dark and frustrating time. After close to a year we finally got licensed to foster and received our first placements, 3 1/2 yo boy and a 6 week old girl (the story of how that match happened is a good one – I’ll have to share it with you sometime).  That same week we ramped up our efforts on trying...

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