To my friends…

May 21, 2015 by

I miss you all. I miss my friends that I don’t see all the time. I miss my high school friends, college friends, my sorority sisters, my tennis, soccer and softball friends, my ski buddies, my law school friends, my work friends and local friends a lot. I know facebook allows for that long distance connection, but I still miss a lot of the in-person communications, the stories, the experiences, the laughs, the tears, etc. Since motherhood, work and just life in general have gotten in the way of physically keeping in touch, I’ve had a lot of guilt about not making time for more of my friends. I have sorority sisters that live an hour or so away that I haven’t seen in FOREVER. I have 10 law school friends all living within a few miles of each other and I haven’t seen them since graduation.

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Double Moms on Mother’s (Mothers’) Day! #unfiltered

May 7, 2015 by

Around Mother’s Day, I like to talk about moms: my wonderful mom, being a mom, being surrounded by amazing moms, etc. Two years ago, I posted about my mom and I can’t top that ode to her. I’ve also posted about our life as moms, especially in a two mom family.

To me, having a two mom household is special and sometimes I’m torn between emphasizing how special it is and just wanted to say “what’s the big deal, we’re no different than anyone else.”

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Tenacity

Apr 23, 2015 by

One thing I really want to give my kids is resiliency, the ability to rebound, the ability to find hope when things are going badly, to pull themselves up by their boot straps, to be full of grit and just plain determination, scrappiness and tenacity. I know I’ve posted about this before, but I feel like we’re still at the beginning of the learning stages.

My 8 year old is a great kid but I find myself seeing his stubbornness as frustrating, rather than a great quality – like tenacity. He tends to show personality traits that began to worry me about his refusal to show perseverance, his stubbornness would result in “screw this” rather than determination. This is a kid who would start battles about homework and reading when it was “too hard”, who quit soccer because it was boring (and the other kids were better than him), who would talk about not playing baseball anymore when he had a bad game (last Spring), who would almost have real meltdowns over video game defeats, who would constantly talk about getting things and making money by trying to find the easiest route possible. When we talked about working for something, he’d shut down and stop listening.

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Owning My Story

Apr 9, 2015 by

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I used to hear my mother say things like “own it” or “own up to it” when one of us would make a mistake or bad choice growing up. I say that to my 18 yr old stepdaughters from time to time now. My purpose is saying “you want to be an adult and be given the respect and responsibility you think you deserve at your age, you’ll gain the most respect by acknowledging your mistake, saying ‘I F*ed up’ or ‘this happened to me’, figuring out what you’ve learned from it, and move on.”

I’ve always known this is the much better response than ignoring it or pretending it didn’t happen, but let’s be honest, it’s far harder to say “I messed up” or “I suffered this awful thing” aloud than it is to just kick some dirt over it and hope it doesn’t come back to haunt you. Therefore, maybe I haven’t always been fantastic about practicing what I preach.

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Family Mantras: Connection

Mar 26, 2015 by

What is the most important thing you want to help provide for your children as you are raising them?

Think about not what you want them to be, but ONE SINGLE THING you can provide for them every day that can foster their growth and development (other than food, clothing, shelter and education).

I see 100s of posts, articles and blogs about raising awesome kids and I feel like I ignore most of them. I don’t usually go searching for some advice on how to raise my children. I have been listening to a bunch of books-on-tape/audiobooks in the car during my commute and have occasionally listened to some quasi-parenting books that fit my mindset – not necessarily books that tell you how to parent but more books about what you want for your life and your family’s future. Much of what I’ve been listening to have resonated deeply for me and I will post about other things as they formulate in my head. But for me, I’ve been thinking about one simple question.

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