Joy and Gratitude

Dec 18, 2014 by

I brought home teacher/administrator gifts for the boys to bring to school. I showed Andrew the little present I got for his bus driver. He said, “I don’t want to give her a present, she’s so mean.” I said, “maybe she could really use a present to make her happy?!” He grunted.

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This time of year can be an emotional time of the year. It can be full of excitement and joy or can consist of pain and hurt. Sometimes, both extremes can exist at the same time. The holidays are a wonderful time to be with family and watch the excitement consume everyone. It’s also a time that you feel loss or hurt more than ever.

My Big Christmas Present

Dec 11, 2014 by

What I want for Christmas this year is family time. Good, quality, distraction-free family time. And, by golly, I’m going to get it.

I haven’t taken more than 2 days off in a row in almost 4 years. The last time I took 2 days off in a row was for my grandfather’s funeral. This Christmas, I’m going to have some real time off – 9 days of no work! As part of my new job, we get Christmas break off since the campus is completely shut down. It doesn’t count against vacation days and there shouldn’t be any emails or phone call coming in.

When I announced to the boys that Mommy was going to be home from work for 9 days, Dylan said “yeah, but you’ll be working.”

“Nope,” I said. “I won’t be working. at. all.”

Facebook vs. Real Life: Christmas Tree

Dec 4, 2014 by

My childhood memories aren’t always totally clear but I do remember our Christmas Tree hunts with my father at the local tree farm in town. You had a little hacksaw and walked up and down the farm hill looking for the perfect tree in the freezing cold (and occasional snow). When Stew Leonard’s came to the neighboring town in the mid-late 1980s, we still got our real Christmas tree but let behind the hunt through the cold for a less-Norman Rockwell-esqe tree buying ordeal. We would still decorate the tree together as much as we could, usually with my father’s records playing in the background: Bing Crosby, John Denver and the Muppets Christmas (my favorite). I’m sure the actual moments weren’t as perfect as I remember, but I have an itch to make those special memories for my boys.

Dropping the ESQ

Nov 13, 2014 by

I’ve announced it on facebook, so it’s out there in the world, I’m switching jobs. I’m leaving a flexible in-house counsel job to go to one of the most recognized Ivy League institution in the world. It’s a big change on many levels. For starters, it puts us in a more difficult situation financially and creates challenges for us child care wise (for now). It will alter my commute from 6 minutes to 50 minutes each way. It puts some stress on us to move at some point in the not-too-distant future, which is something we cannot even contemplate right now.

And yet when I’ve been telling my co-workers and business people over the last two weeks, every single person says, “Wow! Great for you! I totally know why you’re leaving our company and going to X!”

What’s missing from work-life balance conversations?

Oct 30, 2014 by

I have a few books on my shelves written by moms dishing advice about juggling a successful career and a family. They are written by highly successful and wealthy women. I used to attend some “women’s conferences” sponsored by work or professional firms that had “work-life balance” discussions for working moms.

Some of the events would be centered around a fashion theme, risotto, cheese and wine were all served. Women would talk about their struggles to maintain a work-life balance, how they were able to juggle childcare and a rigorous work schedule. Ideas were tossed out about how to mentor young mothers (lawyers) who were trying to find the right balance. The ideas and theories were great and the concepts were worthwhile. But I always left those events feeling frustrated.

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