For my first post back after my hiatus, I thought it was most relevant to talk about what I learned during my little time away from blogger land. First of all, we have all learned that no matter how much you plan or have strategies for running your home, trying to have children or raising your children, nothing works out as you “planned.” But we sometimes need to learn lessons on how to handle those unplanned shifts with grace, or at least just not completely losing our marbles. When Lo (my partner of 12+ years) and I decided to have children, it seemed pretty clear that we may have roles that were somewhat defined. I had “the job” and she was great at the “home stuff.” How archaic and “Leave it to Beaver,” right? After our second child, it made more financial sense to have Lo be a stay-at-home mom for a time. Day care is not for the faint of wallet in CT, and we both thought it would be great to have one of us able to share the time with the boys when they were young. It wasn’t like I was making mint at my job, but with Lo’s budgeting, we could survive this way for a period of time. Then, something happened. Something life changing. I lost my job. At first, it was a welcome...Read More
Author: Holly Robinson
I have been on a blog hiatus for a little while. I don’t want to fall out of touch with the amazing women on this page, so I’m revitalizing my blogging. The writer’s block is mostly due to the fact that I’m no longer a “working” mom. Let me clarify that, I’m no longer employed out in the marketplace, but I’m working harder than I ever have before. I lost my job at the end of October. Other than wishing I was the one who pulled the plug instead of my employer, I can’t really say that I’m upset. While I am frustrated that the job search has been rather unsuccessful, and I definitely would feel more comfortable with a steady income, being able to be a full-time mom right now may just be all worth just a little bit of the stress. Instead of shying away from this blog, I think I do have an opportunity to give a unique perspective. Until recently, I was negotiating substantial deals for corporate clients, working decent hours for a mid-sized law firm. Until recently, most of the family duties like transporting kids around, shopping, cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. fell on my amazing partner, Lois. Now, the roles have quickly turned. Lo is working crazy hours and I am doing everything else. Being with the boys full-time is amazing. I’ve never been...Read More
We have two young children (under 5) but we have several older/teenage children in our lives that we are very aware of the long road ahead. Kids can be brutal to each other and I really think it’s gotten much worse than when we were in school. Parents struggle between wanting to protect their children to the ends of the earth while also needing to give them some independence and coping skills. The hardest thing for a parent is to see their child hurting. We will never be the perfect parents who have all the answers. But I believe that we can do everything we can to have an open line of communication with our children. As they get older, they may not always be honest with us and they will not tell us everything that they do, but we can always have an open door when they need us. I just came across this article on cnn.com. I think it’s very relevant and even if you don’t agree with everything, I think it’s important to realize that bullying happens and we won’t always be there to prevent our child from ever being a victim. There are things I want my boys to become. I want them to feel enough self worth to not let a bully always have the upper hand but enough modesty to know that they...Read More
I don’t know if this is true for everyone, but sometimes, it’s nice to have a night away from the kids now and again. Whether it’s a nice quite dinner with the spouse, grab a movie with girlfriends (including your fellow bloggers) or just be able to run errands without 2 kids in tow, we all occasionally need a little break. This brings up the babysitting issue. When I used to babysit, which I’d like to think wasn’t that long ago, I think I made between $2 – $4 per hour. Now, babysitters in certain unnamed parts of the state expect to make $10-$15 per hour! I don’t know about everyone else but if going out to dinner is going to cost me $50 before I even have a bite to eat, we are not swinging it. The answer: babysitting swap. It’s FREE! We have friends with 3 kids in the same age range as our boys. Once a month, we try to do a babysitting swap on Saturday and Sunday. Saturday night, B&S drop their boys off at our house and head out for hours of kid-free time. The next day, we drop our boys off at their house and go off gallivanting. Note: our kid-free time usually involves running errands rather than movies and nice dinners. It hasn’t been as easy lately with T-ball, bridal showers, birthday...Read More
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