Why Parents Have a Hard Time Talking to Teachers About Their Children’s Needs

Jan 25, 2015 by

1024px-Pink_Pearl_eraserThe girl’s violence struck the library like a bolt of lightning, drawing a gasp from the teacher and the librarian alike. Awkwardness soon followed the initial shock, and then the two adults exchanged a glance for a shrug. It was over. The teacher continued shuttling the children out into the hallway, back to the kindergarten classroom. The girl joined sullenly, her dark features receding as thoughts quickly turned to the remainder of the day ahead.

Just a moment ago, the girl had asked to see a book – the book the librarian had just finished reading to the class. The book made her angry. Some character, a silly anthropomorphism, had been wronged in some manner. The plot had concluded without the wrong being righted. It made her furious. On the way out of the library, as Mrs. Kelland’s kindergarten class fidgeted and bobbed along in their straight little line, she took the opportunity to break away and ask to see the book. The request was granted, and the girl smacked the book hard and fast with an open palm, more than once, and yelled the worst admonishment she knew at the age of five: BAD!!!

My Defining Moment As a Parent Was One of Non-Definition

Jan 16, 2015 by

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Apollo and Diana Attacking the Children of Niobe Jacques-Louis David, 1772 (Via Wikimedia Commons)

Many parents come to a place of reflection where they look back at their child-raising adventures thus far and consider their defining moment, or moments, in parenthood. In my case, it only hit me that I had arrived here upon letting go of the notion that I needed to have such a defining moment.

Being Mommy was really a novelty at first. I’m sure it’s this way for most of us. I really never envisioned myself as a mother, even though I strangely suspected that I would have little ones in tow one day. Maybe I thought this because it’s what most of us are expected to do.

New Year’s Resolutions List? Try a List of Old Year’s Accomplishments Instead.

Jan 4, 2015 by

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I really like James Altucher’s suggestion to scrap your to-do list, or at least minimize it greatly, and replace it with an “I Did” list that details your daily or weekly accomplishments. The idea is that the traditional to-do list causes stress and a feeling of defeat when, inevitably, we fail to check everything off that list at the end of the day. In contrast, an I-did list rewards you with a feeling of accomplishment, which in turn motivates you to get even more done the next day.

Taking this one step further, I realized that I rarely follow my to-do lists once I’ve created them. If the list doesn’t serve its purpose of keeping track of what it is I’m supposed to do that day, and only leaves me feeling overwhelmed and anxious later that night when I realize I put more on it than I could handle, then I’m all for trashing it. To be honest, I haven’t actually sat down to write out an I-did list, but just thinking through what I did over the course of my day helps with that good feeling of a job well done.

Everyday Cooking is Terrible. Holiday Cooking is Fun!

Dec 21, 2014 by

Christmas Kitchen!  (Not mine.)  image via wikimedia commons

                      Christmas Kitchen! (Not mine.)                    image via wikimedia commons

I am famous around these parts for a post I did about how much I hate to cook.  From that post, however, many have made the following incorrect conclusions about me, including that:

1)  I have no cooking skills whatsoever.

2)  I’m just not that into food.

3)  I am the anti-domestic.

No, no and no.  This Christmas Eve, I am having eight family members over my house for a delicious dinner featuring a spiral ham, stuffed shells, and fried fish, followed by a red velvet cake made from scratch, my famous coconut rum balls, and russian tea cakes, a family tradition.  I am doing a crap ton of side dishes, appetizers and hot and cold holiday beverages as well.

ADHD Mom: Weaning Your Nursing Child to Start Medication

Dec 14, 2014 by

 

Disclaimer:  Dammit Jim, I’m a … uh, not a doctor.  None of the following should be taken as medical advice!  Also, this is not a paid endorsement for Strattera.  If the drug doesn’t work out, I will be ditching it and will be back on here to tell you how miserable the experience was.  I’m really hoping that doesn’t happen though!

I was recently prescribed Strattera (atomoxetine) for the sort-of-but-not-really-a-surprise diagnosis of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder I received a few months ago.  I was waiting to start this prescription because I’m still breastfeeding my younger daughter.  That was what my doctor recommended, anyway, although she did give me the trial pack and told me I could start the medication as soon as I wean her.

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