I sometimes worry that by adopting this new parenting philosophy of practicing non-judgment toward other moms, we are forgetting about the other, equally bad extreme: being so hesitant to express an opinion or take a stand on something, that we lose sight of our own values, worry needlessly that any innocent comment will come off as judgmental, and overthink matters that are just plain old common sense.
The reason for the scare quotes in the title is that I don’t believe the following situations are actually times when someone is judging us. Rather, these are times when we as moms, trying to be non-judgmental and supportive, find ourselves conflicted between doing the right thing and making someone else comfortable.
1. When a child is doing something unsafe.read more