Author: Jenn Ford

The Morning Rush

I’ve seen a lot of really great blogs and articles lately encouraging parents to slow down, enjoy watching your kids smell the roses and resist hurrying your child. That’s really neat in theory and I do love this philosophy. I recognize that my three-year-old has no sense of time and no internal feelings of urgency yet. I’d bet a large percentage of adult anxiety stems from feelings regarding time and I sure wouldn’t want this to be something my kids are worried about at this age. “Children think not of what is past, nor what is to come, but enjoy the present time, which few of us do.”– Jean de La Bruyère We’ve been so lucky to have my parents up from Florida and living in our neighborhood for the last 6 months. It’s made our lives so much easier to have my mother taking care of our infant daughter at our home, allowing us to save money and have only one drop off and pickup. But now that they’re heading back home I’ll need to get into a new morning routine and get a three-year-old, a baby and myself out the door by 6:45am, five days a week. My husband leaves for work around the time I’ll get the kids up so any help from him is really out of the question. Just like the anxiety of going...

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Bigger Kids, Bigger Problems

Have you ever heard the old saying – “bigger kids, bigger problems?” It might seem pessimistic to think things with my kids will only get worse as they get older, but instead I try to keep this saying in mind to calm me when I’m worrying about something with one of my two small kids. Yes, whatever is going on is hard, but in the grand scheme of things, it’s not that big. And while it usually does settle me down about whatever it is I’m stressing out about, it also usually breaks my heart to imagine the things that they could face when they’re older. If the little things are tough, the big things are bound to really test you as a parent. For instance, my daughter started a new school in September. Some might call it non-traditional (it’s Montessori). Now, I went to Montessori preschool and my mom is a retired Montessori preschool teacher, so luckily I know what my three year old is talking about when she comes home telling us that today she folded the laundry and had a lesson on the binomial cube. But my heart broke when I asked her what friends she sat with at lunch during those first few days and she answered, “no one.” Long story short, they sit at tables of two or so, and several kids sometimes choose...

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Momfession: I Hide in the Bathroom

We can be honest here right? No judgement, right? Well, here is my confession: I hide from my family in the bathroom. There I said it. Sometimes after my husband gets home from work, I sneak away for some quiet time in the commode. I excuse myself from the dinner table just as dinner is wrapping up so I don’t have to watch my three old not eat anymore. Sometimes I take a pen and paper and I make a grocery list or a to do list. I add things that I’ve already done so I can cross them off and feel accomplished. I plan the next day. Sometimes I read. Sometimes I just need a few minutes of uninterrupted quiet. Maybe I should market this as some sort of toilet meditation? Even though I’m away at work all day, it can be overwhelming to be thrust back into the mayhem of an evening at home trying to shepherd two children through the dinner, bath and bedtime routine in such a short period of time. It’s not that I don’t want to be with the kids or my husband, it’s just that I’d like to be alone for a few minutes. I’ve recently learned my lesson with regards to asking to be excused from the table, or letting everyone know I’ll be right back. When I say, “I have...

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Keeping Score

The older I get, the more I learn about myself and how I react to things. I know I’m on the slippery slope to a bad place when I start keeping score. My husband says “wow, I’m tired” and I start calculating the number of times I got up during the night with the baby during the last week, or who got more sleep this weekend. He gets to choose to stay up late and I have to forego any relaxing time to make sure I get some sleep before the baby wakes up – not fair! I fume while cleaning the kitchen and he’s on the computer! But, doesn’t he have the right to relax and goof off a bit? He works hard, at several jobs and he’s in school. But then I think – when did I last get to sit down and relax? I count the number of nights I’ve put our two girls to bed solo even though he’s out working. I usually let feelings like this build up and then I burst. I’m trying really hard to pay more attention when I start keeping a tally in my head, because then I know it’s time for an attitude adjustment. This isn’t about him; it’s about me and how I’m reacting. It’s not a competition. We’re partners. We’re in this together. “Even after all this...

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