Author: Kate Anderson

Best. Update. Ever.

On June 23 I wrote about our search for a new daycare and all the concerns, issues and complications that accompanied that search. As we get ready to head on vacation and summer camp at daycare winds down, I thought I would steal a few minutes to look back at how far we’ve come. First, that 8 weeks have passed is absolutely ridiculous to me!! Where did the summer go!?!?! By the time we get back from vacation, summer camp will have transitioned to school and my three little ones will be in full on learning mode (not to say that they weren’t learning over the summer but this will be more “school rigid” than “summer fun” learning). I am so happy to report that all three kids made an amazing transition to their new daycare. I’m not going to lie – it was a tough 8 weeks. I knew Bailey and Spencer, for the most part, would be fine. They had their good days and not so good days. We finally made it through two full weeks with no attempts or actual bites from Spencer (so we get to say good bye to his shadow!) and Bailey LOVES her new friends, teachers and the fact that she got to go swimming every day. So my concerns really weren’t for them. The big concerns were for Gavin. Will he...

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Watch Out Vacation, Here We Come!

I have two confessions to make. First, I love vacation. Second, I am terrified of vacation. Let me explain. For as long as my husband and I have been together – 15 years – we have made it a point to go on a summer vacation. Most years we went to a private lake in the middle of nowhere VT (which was super awesome when we lived in NJ and worked in NYC). We could completely unplug (not that there was much cell service anyway) and totally relax. After our daughter was born we went on vacation to Maine with my family. As first time parents it was nice to have several other adults around to help out, plus it allowed us to sneak away for a little while. The year I was pregnant with the boys was the last time we went on vacation – that was the summer of 2013. With all the complications of that pregnancy and the hectic year that followed with Gavin and all his doctor’s appointments and tests we didn’t feel comfortable going on vacation last year. This year I decided “to hell with that! We’re going on vacation!” Now that vacation is a mere two weeks away, I’m getting very nervous – ok if I’m being honest here, more than a little nervous. Here’s the thing. I’m a planner, straight out of...

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Sorry, I’m not sorry

As a special needs parent I’ve come to realize a great many things about people (that includes friends, family, neighbors, and those I don’t know well) and to be honest, not all of these realizations have been pleasant. Luckily the unpleasant realizations have been few and far between. For example, we have found out that there were people in our lives that we thought were friends but ultimately couldn’t handle the idea of being friends with a family that had a special needs kid. For the life of me, I can’t understand why, but at the end of the day, in my mind, no real loss there. But the biggest realization comes from people just not knowing how to react/respond when they find out we have a special needs child. When our families found out that Gavin was officially diagnosed with CP there was some shock. There were (and still are) A LOT of questions – in all honesty more than we were ready or able to answer at the time. We were overwhelmed and unsure of the road ahead of us and doctors couldn’t give us anything more than “we have to wait and see what he does.”  But there was an outpouring of love and support so we continued on our way. When friends and co-workers found out – the vast majority found out through a blog...

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An Open Letter

To the Parent of the child my son is targeting with biting- All I can say is that I’m sorry. I don’t know why my son is “targeting” your daughter and biting her. From my understanding they are buddies and play well together – until he decides to take it that one step further and ruin the fun. I can only imagine what you think of us as parents. How could we possibly allow this type of behavior? Well please know that we don’t. We do not tolerate biting, hitting, name calling, spitting, etc. in our home. Not that this will ease your mind at all but my husband and I have been where you are. I know how it feels to get “that” call while at work or to see the bite mark upon pickup.  At our old daycare our (now 4 year old) daughter was the target of not one, but two biters which went on for almost 2 years. It wasn’t an everyday occurrence but there were days when she’d have 2-3 incident reports from one of the kids biting her. We were told “it’s just a phase” or “he’s having trouble at home”. To be honest I didn’t care I just wanted the biting to stop. Many times it felt as if I was the only one trying to come up with solutions to stop...

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A Special Child Care Search

With summer officially here, if parents haven’t already done so they will soon be looking for ways to keep their kids entertained for the next two and half months. Luckily (or not) for us, with three kids under the age of four, we’re not really at the stage of looking at summer camps just yet. Instead, after four years with the same daycare we found ourselves in the market for a new daycare. My husband and I always knew we were going to be a two income family, regardless of where we were living. So when we found out we were pregnant with our daughter, finding the perfect place for her was a top priority. I started looking as soon as we passed the 12 week pregnancy mark. We looked at nannies, in-home daycare centers, privately owned centers and corporate daycare centers. I got recommendations for various childcare options from friends, family, neighbors and co-workers. To say I did “some research” would be putting it mildly. We finally narrowed the decision down to two locations. Both were within the same price range, within 5 mins of each other (and our house) and both offered the care/services we were interested in. It came down to the personality and energy of the teachers and the overall happiness of the kids that sealed the deal for us in terms of where we...

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