Author: Michelle Noehren

Lyme Disease, Perfectionism, and a New Normal

I almost cried on the elevator ride up to my office. I am so tired. Like, so, incredibly, deeply tired. All the time. About 6 weeks ago I started to feel really sick. I went to the doctor pretty much right away and I actually said to her “I don’t feel right, something is very wrong.” I’m not a hypochondriac so it felt significant that I needed my doctor to know just how badly I was feeling. Her first instinct was Lyme disease but we started off doing a whole set of blood work to see what we could...

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My Mixed Emotions About My Kid-Free Weekends

I’ve been divorced now for over a year, and separated and living apart for longer than that. For the first several months of navigating shared custody with my ex, I had a very hard time on my weekends alone. I missed my daughter the entire time. I had this deep, aching feeling in my heart and I just couldn’t enjoy those weekends. My biggest fear in getting divorced was missing my daughter. I cried so many tears about that, tears that flowed down my cheeks while crying in bed, in the car and at my desk. It tore me up inside that I’d miss time with her, this little person that I love more than anything on this planet. After a while, I noticed my kid-free weekends getting a little bit easier. The way our custody schedule works, I’m pretty much the primary parent for 2 weeks, all by myself, and then my ex has her every other weekend. I began to cherish having some alone time. As an introvert, working parent and single mom, it began to feel like I could finally breathe and recharge on my solo weekends. Recently the sadness of missing her has been creeping back in. When I drop her off at school on the Friday that her dad will be picking her up, my heart and brain pull me in different directions. My...

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What Is At The Root of My Inability to Prioritize Self-Care?

Last week I wrote a post about how I basically don’t even know what self-care is. Seriously, I had to google it to find the definition for my post. I wrote about how I am finally acknowledging that after several difficult years, my emotional reserves are gone. Helping other people is at the core of my being and I have a strong tendency to just put my head down and plow through my own hard stuff so that I can keep it together for my daughter, and everyone around me. I thought I was doing the right thing. I...

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This is What The Truth Looks Like: I Suck at Self-Care

According to a Google search (because of course I had to Google what exactly self-care is): Self care includes any intentional actions you take to care for your physical, mental and emotional health. Good self-care is a challenge for many people and it can be especially challenging for survivors of interpersonal violence and abuse. It can also be an important part of the healing process. Intentional actions I take to care for my physical, mental and emotional health? *Crickets chirping* I’ve realized lately with everything I’ve gone through in the past 2 years, between a divorce, selling a house,...

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Ever Considered Writing Your Own Blog Posts? Consider Joining Us!

Hellooooo lovely readers!! From time-to-time we put out a call for guest writers and that time is NOW! We encourage any Connecticut moms to send us a short writing sample and some information about yourself. Here are a few of our parameters: Good writing skills Lives in Connecticut Open to writing once a month for a 3-month period Comfortable sharing the honest truth about what your life is really like Happy to write in a non-judgmental way Extra bonus: have a unique perspective to share If you’re interested in joining us please send an email to with your...

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