She’s Just a Girl

Dec 11, 2014 by

I am a woman, so of course I know firsthand what it’s like to live in this world as a woman – the good and the bad. I have two daughters and I know that I have a very important job in raising them to know that though they may not always be treated as such, they are equal to their male counterparts. They are strong, smart, brave, beautiful, kind, funny, persistent, and so many more things. Just as their male friends.

I guess it was naïve to think I wouldn’t have to begin teaching them this at age five. I guess I thought we wouldn’t get to this point for a few more years. Spoiler alert: It’s already necessary.

Am I hovering?

Dec 4, 2014 by

I don’t feel like I’m an overprotective mother (okay, some of my friends are probably rolling on an actual floor laughing right now). I let the girls try new things, I encourage their independence, I let them fall down so they can learn. I give them opportunities to earn trust and reward them when they do. I don’t feel like I sweep in and make everything all better all the time. I really don’t.

Which is why I’m struggling with school for Olivia this year, a little bit. To be clear, I am not talking about her relationship with her teachers, her work load, or anything like that. I actually love her teachers and feel they do a fantastic job of getting in all the required academics while still making sure the kids have plenty of down time, fun, and opportunities to be, well, kindergarteners. Love.

Bye, Turkey!

Nov 28, 2014 by

It’s time to get my Christmas ON. I waited until today, not out of respect for the bird, but because we hosted and I felt like I had to keep the fall theme going until at least dessert was through.

I am not of the feeling that we must wait until after Thanksgiving to decorate for Christmas. Think about it. Of all the holidays, this is the best one to decorate for. This is the one we spend the most time and effort on — stringing lights outside, chopping down trees/digging them out of the attic and setting them up, adding more lights, bulbs, decorations, putting up stockings, et cetera, et CETERA…

It’s 11/28. Christmas is less than a month away. I’m sorry, but if I’m putting all that effort in, I want to enjoy it for more than three weeks. We started fall decorating in SEPTEMBER. It’s been months. Time to wrap it up, pumpkins. Buh BYE, leaves and corn stalks. BRING ON THE SNOWFLAKES AND TINSEL!

The One Where I Thank My Friends

Nov 14, 2014 by

You guys. I know we’ve all heard and know IN OUR BONES the whole “it takes a village” thing on raising kids, but it really, really does. And I’m not even talking about literal helping of the raising children today. I’m talking about helping of the keeping me sane.

That takes a village.

I am very lucky and so grateful to have some crazy amazing friends. Some I’ve had my entire life (my sister), some for most of my life, some since college (which, omg, is like, half my life now) and some since my 20s (oh wait, THAT is like half my life. damn.).

Go Team

Nov 6, 2014 by

My husband doesn’t really like when I write about him here. (Hi, Tom! And… sorry!) But sometimes, in order to keep it real, I have to! We just celebrated our seventh anniversary with some wine and a family meeting. Romantic! To be clear, we do have spectacular actual celebratory plans in two weeks, but this was still pretty awesome to me.

“Can you believe they let us DO THIS???”

You see, lately we’ve been like… bumping into each other. Off our game. Drowning in the responsibility of paying a mortgage, keeping reliable vehicles on the road, and the care and raising of two small feisty ladies. It’s easy during this time — the time during which you are still relatively new at this entire parenting thing — to get snippy. To get frustrated. To feel like your partner neither understands your efforts nor appreciates your sacrifices for the family. And this goes both ways, people, of course, but it’s hard to see past your own shit and notice that hey, maybe my spouse is feeling similarly? Or feeling anything? Who knows? All I know is TAKE OUT THE DAMNED GARBAGE IF YOU’RE GOING OUTSIDE ANYWAY. See what I mean? Gah. That can’t be fun for anyone.

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