Making a Difference without Making a Dent

Dec 15, 2014 by

I belong to a social group for working moms in Wilton – we recently collected money for our local Social Services agency to help families in need during the holiday season. Through our efforts, we managed to collect $1,300 in addition to purchasing several holiday gifts to help fulfill some kids’ holiday wishlists.

In discussing the efforts, an acquaintance questioned how far $1,300 would go in a town like Wilton only because around here, the cost of living tends to be high. Basics are expensive, the cost of gasoline is higher than most parts of the country, and the large homes are expensive to heat. True, when you look at it that way, $1,300 doesn’t sound like a lot, and many people might opt out of donating because they feel like their contribution may not be impactful. In reality, however, EVERY SINGLE DOLLAR counts. Consider the following: the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) does not cover personal products (soaps, shampoo, feminine hygiene, grooming items and cosmetics), paper products, medicines, vitamins or household supplies. Families who depend on SNAP to get by would be required to pay for the items out-of-pocket, and most items can hardly be considered “luxuries.” If I pulled prices out of our local supermarket circular and discount department store:

Slow Cookin’ the Old Fashioned (Ethnic) Way

Dec 1, 2014 by

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Korean Style Beef Stew (Kalbi Jjim). Credit: YELP

A few months ago, our old routine that had organically developed over the course of 3+ years was turned on its head – we switched preschools at the same time as I changed jobs. While the changes were, in their own right, small, the aggregate effect was enormous, resulting in the loss of precious time at the end of the day. You wouldn’t think that this is a big deal except for the fact that I now get home at 6:30 and by the time that I prepare dinner, my kids don’t eat until at least 6:45 or later (they used to eat at about 6:00). Dinnertime then leaches into bathtime, which then overlaps with bedtime…and you get the picture…

A Thanksgiving Prayer

Nov 24, 2014 by

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Motherhood is a tough job. Throughout the year, it is EASY to get caught up in complaints; feeling sorry for the things that we wish were better – help from our husbands, more time, more sleep, more exercise, more control. Thanksgiving is a chance to sit back and really THINK about our lives in the broader context of life around us, and realize what gifts we have been given in our otherwise random lives.

So, here is my Thanksgiving prayer; a reflection on the things that have been gifted to me:

Today, I am thankful for a stable job that keeps me financially secure;

for my health and my family’s health which gives us the strength to enjoy life and seize the day;

for having received, and being able to give my kids a strong education because I truly believe that it is the door to opportunity;

Facing the Reality of Being a Working Mom with School Aged Kids

Nov 17, 2014 by

I have had a reality check recently – I switched my kids to a preschool which follows an academic year calendar. This means that the hours are 8:30 to 2:30, there are school holidays like winter break, spring break and (gasp!) summer break. We are really lucky in that our school offers extended care both before and after school so at the very least I can drop my kids off and make it into the office at a normal time, and if I really need to, I can leave my kids there until the end of my work day.

But holy crap…I didn’t realize that the mommy/school mambo is TOUGH…much tougher than I anticipated.

The Suckitude of Mommyhood

Nov 10, 2014 by

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My kids have become unbearable lately. Well, not all the time, but a good majority of the time that I actually see them…

I don’t blame them for their behavior, or myself for that matter. After all, my kids are four years old. They are wired to have temper tantrums, whine, and challenge authority; all the things that we HATE as parents. They have a schedule that is physically and mentally challenging – they go to school at 8:30, don’t get home until AT LEAST 4:00, and generally have very little downtime. Their little bodies are running at 300MPH, and they are just tired and cranky.

Every waking moment that I see them on the weekdays – which is between the hours of 7AM to 8:30AM, and again from 6:30PM to 8:00PM – they are tugging at every last string of my patience. My daughter, the quintessential drama queen, whines ABOUT EVERYTHING…it doesn’t matter what it is, she just whines for the sake of whining. My son, a more sensitive soul, cries or gets angry when things don’t go his way.

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