Author: Sarah Bourne Perillo

Yes, My Husband Is Sexy

My husband is sexy. It has taken him a while to get there, but who cares, he has arrived! He has had some questionable circumstances, made some unseemly decisions, and passed through some awkward phases; allow me to explain the metamorphosis behind his transformation. You know the first few months when you are falling in love with someone? Everything your new boyfriend does is funny, everything he says is important; you simply can’t get enough! During the beginning of a romantic relationship you feel passionate toward your partner, you find yourself gazing in awe at his masculine qualities and characteristics. This sense of passion causes a high, and in your sense of euphoria you tend to ignore the nagging idiosyncracies that pop up later in life. You think it’s totally acceptable that someone would have soooo much dust on the dash-board of their beater car and not bother to remove it. You find it adorable that track jackets are considered acceptable dress code for any social event on the spectrum. You are in the early stages of love, everything is great and this man you are passionate about is beautiful. Then, in the blink of an eye you understand that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. You are going to marry him. Getting caught in the marriage hullabaloo is fun and exciting, but can also be stressful and...

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The Morning Hustle

Awww Monday morning, I am not happy to see you! After a fun-filled weekend, a restless night’s sleep and over sleeping, I was forced to operate at high-speed this morning to ensure that everyone arrived at work and school on time. I would say that 80% of our mornings go smoothly. However, the other 20% result in me doing the morning hustle. Rushing, running, and scurrying around to make sure my family gets out the door. For me, it’s not an option to skip components of my children’s morning routine. Regardless of how late we are, they still have to eat breakfast, wash-up, brush their teeth, and make sure their bags are packed with the proper items for school. When I am in the position of having to cut time out of our morning routine I find it in my own routine. I have several “skips” that I use to squeeze extra minutes out of the morning. Here are some ways that I have kept my family on time in the morning: Skip the blowdry. I usually leave the house with wet hair (even in winter!) Pass on the ironing. If my clothes are really wrinkly,  I might toss them into the dryer, but I just don’t have the time to iron things in the morning. Pieces of clothing that are supposed to look that nice on a regular basis, find...

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Five Fantastic Firsts

Today my oldest daughter turns 5. I have no idea how that happened! Just yesterday she was a precious newborn baby. Sitting at the computer last night I took a trip down memory lane and looked through five years worth of pictures. We had captured all the big milestones: first bath, first time sitting up, crawling, eating solid foods, walking, first Christmas and first birthday. What stuck out at me the most and made me a big mushy pile of nostalgia were the more subtle firsts. The changes and milestones that happen more gradually and more subtly, which as a parent, you might not cognitively recognize in the moment. Here are five fantastic (and more subtle) firsts from my daughter’s first five years. 1- New Titles My daughter was the first grandchild to be born (on either side of our family). Her arrival sparked a chain reaction of title changes. On this day five years ago we were too caught up in oogling the ten precious fingers and toes, and the cute little face that we were seeing for the first time. While all this excitement was going on, I had taken on a new title; for the first time, I was a Mother, my husband a Father, on that same day four new Grandparents were born, along with an Aunt, Uncle and an Aunnie. 2- First Love of a Pet As my daughter grew into...

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The Division of Labor

Are you a working mom, a stay at home mom, or a part-time working mom? Do you co-parent or are you the lead parent? Do any of these factors come into play when your household distributes and assigns the tasks that keep things going? Oh, you know; laundry, cleaning, mowing the lawn, house maintenance, grocery shopping, and cooking. Being the analytic and quantitative thinker that I am the most fair and equitable way to divide household labor would be to determine what percentage of hours each parent works. You both work full-time, easy, the labor is divided 50/50. You work 24 hours your husband works 40…easy, you are responsible for 60 percent of the tasks, your husband, 40. If you don’t co-parent and you are the lead parent your responsibilities should be weighted accordingly, since you have less free time. If your husband is the lead parent you should have extra time to pick up some of the slack around the house. Does my formula ever actually come into fruition…not often! I know it certainly doesn’t in my house! Why though? What factors drive the inequalities in the division of household labor? Is it some classic, underlying gender stereotype that women should cook, clean, do the laundry, grocery shop, plan birthday parties, do the holiday shopping, and organize the family social calendar, because those tasks seem more feminine than mowing...

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Weekday Recovery

As busy moms I am certain that we have all experienced those insane weekends where you are running to and fro and are barely able to catch your breath. You know, the weekends where nothing gets done around the house, the laundry pile grows exponentially, and the refrigerator is empty because no one has had the time to go shopping. I am just coming off a bender of a weekend. This past weekend we hosted 60 guests at our home for my daughter’s 1st birthday, we had dance class, two soccer practices and two other birthday parties. All of us are exhausted, but we had fun playing, visiting and celebrating with friends and family. In my opinion it is always a good thing to be busy doing good stuff. I made a promise to myself when I became a mother that I would NEVER take a pass on the fun stuff because my house needed to be cleaned or laundry needed to be done. So, welcome Monday; I am officially starting my weekday recovery. Since I had no time to catch my breath or re-charge my battery over the weekend, I am finding the time to do it during the work week. Hard, yes, but not impossible. Here is where you can find me recovering this week: In the morning, after all the school drop offs, sipping my coffee...

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