Those were the words spoken to me by my four year old daughter the other day as I ordered her to “be a good girl” for what seemed like the millionth time. This honest response, spoken in a most frustrated tone, really took me by surprise and for a moment allowed me to actually hear what emotions were going on inside that stubborn little head of hers. Her confession was stated in the context of following our household rules, not with regard to treating someone with respect, although we have our challenges with that at times too. With many of the things she says, I will think about it for a second and then move on, but she keeps repeating this phrase to us as justification for every one of her actions that are met with our criticism. I was worried I made her feel like she was not a good person or that she should feel bad about herself if she did something wrong. This just stirs up so many questions in my head like: How do I expect her to follow the rules, when I am just making up them up as we go along?; Am doing a terrible job trying to raise a loving and compassionate person?; Will she have a tough time at school following the rules?; Do I really want her to be one to follow the rules all the time instead of pursuing her individuality?; Do I just plain suck at disciplining my child?; What does “good” really mean anyway?