One thing I really want to give my kids is resiliency, the ability to rebound, the ability to find hope when things are going badly, to pull themselves up by their boot straps, to be full of grit and just plain determination, scrappiness and tenacity. I know I’ve posted about this before, but I feel like we’re still at the beginning of the learning stages.
My 8 year old is a great kid but I find myself seeing his stubbornness as frustrating, rather than a great quality – like tenacity. He tends to show personality traits that began to worry me about his refusal to show perseverance, his stubbornness would result in “screw this” rather than determination. This is a kid who would start battles about homework and reading when it was “too hard”, who quit soccer because it was boring (and the other kids were better than him), who would talk about not playing baseball anymore when he had a bad game (last Spring), who would almost have real meltdowns over video game defeats, who would constantly talk about getting things and making money by trying to find the easiest route possible. When we talked about working for something, he’d shut down and stop listening.read more