My Favorite Non-Necessity baby gear piece

Nov 7, 2014 by

After you have had a couple of kids you realize a majority of baby gear you register for in the baby stores while make life convenient but really are no necessary to raise your child. Except for formula, breast-milk  car seat, diapers and bottles everything else is to make your life easier.

Out of all the product that is totally an extra to have (wipes warmer, swaddles, etc) I must say I LOVE my video monitor the best. The video monitor is fabulous because it helped me in the following situations.

1. As a new mother scared my child would die if I wasn’t staring or holding him all the time the video monitor helped me watch him as soon as I switched him to his own room. I remember my husband watching me watching the baby yelling at me “Would you stop staring at our kid!” It did help me ease those first few weeks of anxiety.

Riding through the Rough Patches

Oct 14, 2014 by

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We’re going through a couple of rough patches with both kids.  They’re both having a tough time adjusting to their new grade levels.  Our daughter’s behavioral outbursts are escalating.  She’s spent a lot of time with substitutes and we just learned that today her teacher will be switched due to another teacher’s very untimely transfer to a different school.  Autism, ADD and constant change is now equaling nervous moms every morning when we wave to her on the bus.

Our son is experiencing more anxiety than I’m comfortable with about school, and it’s not about his ability to learn.  He’s an award-winning rule follower (when not at home).  He’s a dynamite kid but the pressure he puts on himself to have flawless behavior in school is intense.

Put these two together and this means more phone calls from the school than I ever wanted in their entire elementary education, a care conference promotion to an early PPT and more bedtime pep-talks than I know how to manage creatively.

Letting Go of the Negativity

Oct 1, 2014 by

Insecurity. Self-doubt. JEALOUSY. Anxiety. Resentment. They are all such heavy, negative emotions. At the same time, they are natural, innate, and above all, powerful. They have the ability to overwhelm and take over. They have the power to weigh you down, both literally and figuratively. Personally, I’ve experienced those feelings at different levels throughout my life. And at times they’ve consumed me. And during those times, I just gave in and accepted it: this was part of my personality; part of who I was.

As time passed, I came to realize that is NOT who I am. Maybe it had to do with maturity, life experience, becoming a wife, a mother, I’m not sure. Maybe I just didn’t want to feel insecure and weighed down by heaviness of negativity. So I made a conscious effort NOT let those destructive words describe me anymore.

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Craving a Better Balance

Sep 26, 2014 by

Lately I’ve been thinking about how much I’m on the computer. The internet more specifically. I was away for a week recently and while I had my phone, I didn’t use a computer the entire time. I felt different. More relaxed, less anxious.

I’m on the computer a lot, every day. The first thing I do when I wake up is check my email. I use the computer at work all day and then in the evening spend time working on website related stuff, checking in on Facebook and checking my email. I’ve played around with setting up boundaries for myself around my internet use. For instance, I’ve been trying to tell myself that I won’t check my email or social media after 7:30 p.m. in order to give myself a better balance. The evenings that I successfully stay off the web I find that it’s easier for me to go to sleep and I wake up less anxious the next morning.

The Fear of Having Post-Partum Depression…AGAIN.

Sep 24, 2014 by

With my first son, I had post-partum depression. But that’s not what this post is about. To be honest, I’m not quite ready to write about that. This is about what happened the second time around.

 

First of all, I did not want to have another baby. Sure, I liked the idea of my son having a sibling (being one of four, I knew the significance of that experience). My husband wanted another child. But I did not. Why would I ever take the chance of going through that horrible nightmare again? Nothing is worth feeling like that. No, not even a child.  

 

Well, the conversation inevitably came up and I gave my husband the same reply every time “I’m just not ready yet.” I used that excuse for about a year. Then in a weak moment (or maybe subconsciously I thought I was ready, I don’t know) I said “Ok, let’s do it”. So I went off the pill and started timing things. About two days later I freaked out: There is NO way I’m doing this again! 

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