Parenting Personalities: Type A vs. Type B

Jul 23, 2015 by

When I became a mother in late 2013, my husband already had ten years of being a dad behind him. On top of this experience are our vastly different personalities. I am a pretty classic Type-A person: anxious, impatient, achievement-oriented, perfectionist, and a tendency towards “worst-case scenario” thoughts. My husband is very Type-B: low stress, relaxed, patient, and a bit of a procrastinator. One of his favorite sayings is “I don’t worry about something until there is something to worry about.” Not only do I not understand this mentality, it drives me crazy that he can fully embrace it while I have devoted hours, weeks, months, of my life to worrying. I have it down to an art.

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transition isn’t just for kids

Jul 17, 2015 by

The journey of a transgender child isn’t a smooth one, even if that child is lucky enough to have an accepting family and community. There is a lot of anxiety. A LOT. And when you think about it, it makes sense. As a toddler and a young child, your parents are everything. They are the ultimate authority on how the world works. And when they call you a boy, well, they must be right. Right?

Add in every other authority figure in your life — siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles, teachers, doctors, librarians (hey, they’ve always been a big authority figure in my life!) — saying the same thing, and it can be so disorienting to feel that you are a girl when they’re all saying that you are a boy.

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Mindfulness for Kids

Jul 14, 2015 by

FullSizeRender6I am about half-committed to mindfulness.  I live in full enjoyment of my kids, my wife and nature.  I love adventures, big and small, like exploring our local river for the 100th time, getting all dirty and throwing the kids and the dog in the bath immediately upon returning home.  When it comes to joy, I can sink in.  I treasure and consume the smiles on little faces.  My ears are massaged with their giggles.  My spirit is refreshed.

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I am blessed that my kids equally delight in these moments.  We are a family that is blessed with a lot of good times.  We spend most of every weekend in nature, find ample opportunities to visit the library, and walk the neighborhood “choose your own adventure” style.  The little things are enough quite often.

As a family, we’ve got the “sinking in” thing down, as long as what we’re sinking into is a feeling we want to be having.

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Uncertainty: The Gateway to Possibility

Apr 21, 2015 by

I am in one of those “riding on cloud nine” moods where I think, for a moment anyway, that I’ve found Shambala and the Holy Grail.  Truth is, I’ve found nothing, except, it seems, a hefty dose of serenity on the other side of what has been several weeks filled with anxiety and overwhelm.

In the middle of overwhelm, I talked with my spouse about potentially taking off on a retreat.  Since her job will be sending her to San Francisco in a few months, she enthusiastically supported it.  It gives me an attitude adjustment, helps her absolve a little travel-guilt about being away from the family for a week for the first time, and we all win.  I found one that intrigued me, “The Fear Cure” at Kripalu.  Considering retreats are anything but cheap, I ordered the book to see if I could really buy in to this “new-age funny business” and sign up.

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Scaredy-Mom

Feb 4, 2015 by

Is my daughter watching too much TV? Getting too much screen time? Is she getting enough “fresh air”? Is she going to pick up a stomach virus? A serious personal dread of mine. Are people going to pick on her at school? Am I spoiling her with clothes or toys? Am I using my phone too much around her and completely ignoring her? Am I being too strict or mean? Am I being too lenient? Is she going to meet a boyfriend (you know, like a decade from now) that is going to get her into drugs? Am I totally f@$king up this parenting thing? Am I being too weird and nervous?

Photo Credit: Flikr Creative Common,きゃりこ / Kabukicho Shinjuku / Tokyo

Photo Credit: Flikr Creative Commons,きゃりこ / Kabukicho Shinjuku / Tokyo

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