I Was Forced Out of My Job Because My Employer Didn’t Believe in Work-Life Balance

Jan 7, 2016 by

I’m more than sure that no one has to tell all you working moms out there that being a working mom is extremely tough. From the time our children are born we feel like we have to be superwoman, caring for and loving our children to an extreme all while trying to create a work-life balance. What they never told me was that there is no such thing! It seems like the work-life balance that employers are not so eager to discuss is an illusion and they constantly get away with having to provide that balance because somehow just by acknowledging that you need that balance is balance enough. And employers that don’t have children will never understand…they just won’t! Maybe this is wrong to throw out there but if they’re male employers with or without children, they won’t understand either. I find that 9 out of 10 times male employers with children are almost never with their children as much as their partner is so the burden of having to create a work-life balance doesn’t exist. Let’s not get crazy and ask them to understand why you, a working mother, need to create more of a balance.

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My Daughter’s Voice

Jan 27, 2015 by

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It’s opposite day in our home. If I say “up”, my daughter says, “down”. If I say “left”, she says “right”. A never ending game where she challenges everything. Or simply offers a “no…no no no!” I am grateful for her attention and her frequent response to a question. I have a daughter and she has a voice. Autism will not take away her ability to speak up and out. No matter what her first evaluations concluded, she will ultimately not be silenced by this diagnosis.

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“First…then:” Parenting in Binary Code

Jan 19, 2015 by

We learned the “first…then” behavior strategy from our daughter’s birth-to-3 team.  At the time, the goal was simply trying to help our daughter get a sense of time and order.  “First you go to sleep for a nap.  Then, you can play more.”  We used social stories, which are essentially a tool to convey any routine, such a potty steps, the line-up of her preschool day, or what a Saturday, which is different every week, might look like.

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Over time, “first…then” also became a way to get both our children to take part in some of the less desirable parts of a household.  “FIRST, we clean up from the puzzles, THEN we can bring out the books.”

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When Should You Medicate Your Child?

Jan 13, 2015 by

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As if I knew the answer to that question, right?  I have Googled this very question, paraphrased in various ways, more than once.  Heck, perhaps that’s how you landed here now.   If so, like you I have wondered and struggled and suffered through deciding.  I have sat across from my wife, daughter, her pediatrician, teachers, and mentors in tears, wondering how to best help our little girl.  As a social worker who started her career working with kids, and often with kids on medication, I was not the biggest fan.  I saw kids over-medicated, diagnosed too soon or misdiagnosed.  I watched parents pressured into putting their kids on medication to stay in school.  I saw the helplessness and pain in parents’ eyes as they struggled with the very same decisions.

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Responding to Autism’s Surprises

Dec 16, 2014 by

We are forever learning to be better parents to our children, and that is not different when parenting a child with special needs.  Occasionally, someone from Sage’s school will ask if we have any tips to respond to a certain trigger or behavior, and outside of bonding over our shared helplessness, at times we’ve got nothing.  Sometimes we wing it, probably more often than we would like.  While there are certain things we can prepare for, there are always surprises.

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1. The unexpected loud space:  If we know we’re headed somewhere over-stimulating, we’ll throw a pair of earmuffs or headphones in a purse “just in case.”  Yet, there are places we know we don’t need them.  Enter mistake number one.  Church is a place that isn’t “too loud.”  Well, until last weekend.  No ear muffs.

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