Judgment Bad, Assertiveness Good: Stand Up For Yourself, and Your Parenting Practices, Without Being a Jerk.

Feb 28, 2014 by

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It’s Moms For Moms Day next week, and we’re all supposed to be talking about this and doing supportive stuff for moms.  Unfortunately I have been less than supportive of anyone this week, most of all myself and my family.  The new job and the winding down of my business has put a lot of stress on me, albeit welcome stress, and I haven’t had much time to catch my breath.  Not only that, but for some reason, I seem to be picking fights with people left and right.  Not in the violent sense, but I mean, little petty, sticky things that make me want to speak up and speak my mind.  I have never been known to shy away from an argument a lively debate on an issue I’m passionate about, and while it sometimes makes things a little tense, I would rather live in an uncomfortable world of my own creation than succumb to shuffle along passively while I allow the opinions of others to shape my environment.

True confession: Breastfeeding was my best parenting tool

Feb 28, 2014 by

While I never imagined I would have nursed my daughter until she was over the age of two and a half, breastfeeding ended up being the best parenting tool in my arsenal and the one I reached for more than any other.

Yep, I milked our breastfeeding relationship for all it was worth (pun intended).

At first it was in the back of my head that it could be weird to nurse something that could ask for it and figured I’d probably stop long before she could form bits of sentences and express herself. Certainly I had heard from and read about others who thought this was creepy, as was nursing a baby who had popped out a few teeth.

But once I saw the many benefits of breastfeeding for the both of us, you better believe I put her to the breast willingly and often.

Touched Out: Toddler Nursing and the Older Child

Feb 17, 2014 by

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I’m embarking on some new career/business pursuits (more on those later), and they are, unsurprisingly, taking a physical and mental toll on me.  While this was to be expected, I am nonetheless evaluating the situation to see if I might be able to take some steps to make my life easier right now.

Last year, I wrote about the potential to wean my younger daughter around the time she was old enough to get the majority of her nutrition from solid foods.  Haha, given my track record with my older kid, I should have known that was not going to happen.  The first “baby” weaned at 22 months … a few days after her younger sister was born.  More to the point, the kid had to wean because tandem nursing just didn’t work out for me, despite my openness to toddler nursing and extended breastfeeding.

Thoughts on weaning

Jan 17, 2014 by

I always knew I would share my thoughts on weaning, long before I actually planned on doing so. In my head this post would be about how hard it is not to have that closeness anymore with my daughter, and how much I miss nursing her. As it turns out, that’s not how it actually is at all.

Because I nursed my daughter until she was over two and a half years old, snuggling became a very easy substitute for nursing. Just as we used to nurse first thing in the morning (in the end there, we were down to one session a day), now we still like to cuddle on the couch while watching a show to start our day; it gives us a chance to connect – and me, a night owl, to wake up. As the days go by she asks less and less to nurse, but in the beginning when the requests were more frequent and her reaction more intense, being able to use words with her to explain why we no longer nurse or to offer a substitute was very helpful. Now, she can watch her aunt nurse her two-week-old cousin and see that it’s something that babies do; she’s the big girl now. This process hasn’t been perfect or flawless, but I do believe having her of an age where she can comprehend what I’m saying has been more helpful than harmful.

The Weaning Diaries: Part 2…The Final Chapter

Dec 20, 2013 by

A couple weeks ago I started sharing my weaning journey; for those of you who aren’t familiar with our story, Nora is two-and-a-half years old and I…I have no clue what I’m doing (ha!). In all honesty, though, I couldn’t find any pointers online about how to compassionately and effectively wean a toddler. Any advice I found was how to do this with babies so I’m hoping that by sharing my experience other moms may learn from my trial and error. You can read Part 1 here…and here is Part 2:

Day 7 – Nora fell out of her bed this morning. Oops. I didn’t refuse to nurse when she asked, I felt so bad. I also wasn’t feeling well and didn’t have much energy to put up a fight anyway.

Day 8 – Feeling this mystery sickness in full force today; my in laws were so wonderful to take Nora for a second day in a row so I could rest. We didn’t nurse today.

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