I love, I mean hate, I mean Love breastfeeding…

May 16, 2014 by

The other day I was thinking about how much I love and how much I hate breastfeeding.

YUP I am going to say it out loud “Sometimes I fucking hate breastfeeding.” I do not have any hard core view on what is better breastfeeding, or formula and this is not the debate of this piece. (I personally don’t care what you feed your kids as long as you are feeding them that makes you a great parent in my eyes)

I am the type of person who needs to bitch about stuff and then I let it out of my system and feel better. I breastfed my son and am breastfeeding my daughter but honestly there are so many things people do not tell you about breastfeeding and I think all mom’s should hear some of it.

1. The beginning is a total mind fuck and HARD!

My Life With Two Kids

Apr 23, 2014 by

On February 10th my lovable and snug-able baby boy, Luke, came into this world.  Having had a c-section the first-time around with my daughter, I was hoping for a natural birth.  I envisioned a beautiful drug-free, peaceful birth that would be like this:

rainbows and butterflies
Twenty-six hours of  labor and one epidural later, I eagerly requested opted for a repeat c-section.   It still was a beautiful, empowering birth, but rather than rainbows and butterflies, it was a little more like this:


Despite feeling like a sliced pizza, it was one of the happiest days of my life.   Adding this baby to our family has made life a little more complicated and chaotic, but in a good way (on most days anyway).  It’s good to have balance in our household so my husband doesn’t feel overwhelmed by two demanding women.  Thankfully, our daughter loves her baby brother.  Now if only we can teach her to be a little gentler with him.  This is pretty much how she holds the baby when she gets her little hands on him:

Judgment Bad, Assertiveness Good: Stand Up For Yourself, and Your Parenting Practices, Without Being a Jerk.

Feb 28, 2014 by


It’s Moms For Moms Day next week, and we’re all supposed to be talking about this and doing supportive stuff for moms.  Unfortunately I have been less than supportive of anyone this week, most of all myself and my family.  The new job and the winding down of my business has put a lot of stress on me, albeit welcome stress, and I haven’t had much time to catch my breath.  Not only that, but for some reason, I seem to be picking fights with people left and right.  Not in the violent sense, but I mean, little petty, sticky things that make me want to speak up and speak my mind.  I have never been known to shy away from an argument a lively debate on an issue I’m passionate about, and while it sometimes makes things a little tense, I would rather live in an uncomfortable world of my own creation than succumb to shuffle along passively while I allow the opinions of others to shape my environment.

True confession: Breastfeeding was my best parenting tool

Feb 28, 2014 by

While I never imagined I would have nursed my daughter until she was over the age of two and a half, breastfeeding ended up being the best parenting tool in my arsenal and the one I reached for more than any other.

Yep, I milked our breastfeeding relationship for all it was worth (pun intended).

At first it was in the back of my head that it could be weird to nurse something that could ask for it and figured I’d probably stop long before she could form bits of sentences and express herself. Certainly I had heard from and read about others who thought this was creepy, as was nursing a baby who had popped out a few teeth.

But once I saw the many benefits of breastfeeding for the both of us, you better believe I put her to the breast willingly and often.

Touched Out: Toddler Nursing and the Older Child

Feb 17, 2014 by

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I’m embarking on some new career/business pursuits (more on those later), and they are, unsurprisingly, taking a physical and mental toll on me.  While this was to be expected, I am nonetheless evaluating the situation to see if I might be able to take some steps to make my life easier right now.

Last year, I wrote about the potential to wean my younger daughter around the time she was old enough to get the majority of her nutrition from solid foods.  Haha, given my track record with my older kid, I should have known that was not going to happen.  The first “baby” weaned at 22 months … a few days after her younger sister was born.  More to the point, the kid had to wean because tandem nursing just didn’t work out for me, despite my openness to toddler nursing and extended breastfeeding.

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