Balancing

Jan 6, 2015 by

Balance

I recently had coffee with my younger brother.  Naturally the conversation turned to our parents and the way they raised us.  My brother does not believe that one’s childhood affects one for the rest of one’s life.  “How is it possible that 11 or 12 years – the years between 4 and 16 – shape our whole lives?”  He picked those years because, he believes, we can’t remember what happened before age 4, and by the time we’re 16 or so, our parents are irrelevant.

His point was that our parents are just part of the huge cast of characters that pass through our lives and influence us, and that they can’t be blamed for all of our failings and deficits.  He thought our parents did the best they could with what they had, and made his case for the fact that THEY were raised by people who didn’t bring a lot to the table either.

Two Brothers

Dec 9, 2014 by

This morning I woke Jack up to take him to daycare and he was his usual cranky, dramatic three year old self:

 

“But I can’t brush my teeth.”

That’s not the shirt I want to wear.”

“Those aren’t the pants I want to wear.”

“I want milk.”

“No, I want juice.”

“No, not in that cup.”

 

The morning went on like that…until he saw his little brother. Immediately, an involuntary grin spread across his face. They smiled and giggled at some secret inside joke and then Jack took his brother’s chubby fist in his hand and said “Look Mom, two brothers.”

My babies.

My boys.

 My sons.

Awkward Family Photos

Nov 11, 2014 by

My Fam (minus Mom the photographer) nailing the Awkward Family Photo.

My Fam (minus Mom the photographer) nailing the Awkward Family Photo.

Ever since my second son was born at the beginning of this year, I’ve been dying to get professional family photos taken. You know the ones I’m talking about: Mom, Dad, and kids all in classically generic poses, beaming at the camera, dressed embarrassingly alike. Yeah, I wanted that, in all of its cheesy glory. So for months, I planned. I picked out coordinating (but not identical) preppy little outfits for the boys (aren’t little sweater vests the cutest?). I found the perfect photographer, perfect location, and chose the perfect autumn day. I even bought the picture frames I was going to put the pictures in. These were going to be the best family photos ever! The morning of our photo shoot I talked to my three year old about what we were going to do, we practiced our smiles, and he was very excited about the whole idea.

5 Things I Swore I Would Never Do as a Parent (But do all the Time)

Oct 28, 2014 by

carol

I had a very specific vision of the type of parent I wanted to be. And then I became a parent and was smacked in the face with reality. I still have the same basic core values and I won’t budge on those. But then there’s everything else. I will be the first to admit, many of the things I swore I would never do I do now because it’s just plain easier. Yes. I take the easy way out. A lot. Here are a few examples…

 

Use TV as a babysitter

Pre-Mom: My child will never sit in front of the television. My child will use educational toys to entertain himself. We will spend our time together reading books, doing puzzles, and having intelligent conversations.

When To Say When

Oct 22, 2014 by

This is the first year my son is really “into” Halloween. He carefully considered his costume for months. He changed his mind about 31 times after finally settling on Batman. When his costume arrived, he immediately tried it on, running around the house yelling, “I’m Baaaatmaaaan” and spent the rest of the day saving the world. This is also the first time he’s intrigued by Halloween’s “scary things”. He saw someone dressed in a monster costume on TV and my first reaction was to cover his eyes and change the channel (the guy was really scary!). But it was too late. He saw it and was amazed. He asked me to rewind it so he could see it again. I did. Again and again and again. I kept assuring him “it’s only a costume, it’s not real” but he didn’t want to hear it. He was too busy gaping at the crazy werewolf man hulking around on the screen. I could tell he was a little nervous, but utterly fascinated at the same time.

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