9 Reasons You’re a Good Mother

Feb 4, 2015 by

1.  You think you’re not.  You are convinced you’re doing it all wrong.  You try different parenting techniques and regardless of whether they are effective or not, you still question them.  You’re inconsistent.  You worry about every miniscule detail, both physically and emotionally. Your child doesn’t eat healthy enough, watches too much TV, gets too much attention, doesn’t get enough attention, doesn’t sleep well. You didn’t breast feed long enough. Did he have that cough yesterday?  Is he gaining enough weight?  Too much weight?  Stop.  The fact that you worry is a testament of how much you care and how utterly important you take your role, and that makes you a good mother.

 

2.  You have a fierce instinct to protect them.  You’re a gentle person who doesn’t enjoy confrontation or conflict.  But if someone crosses your child, you fly into crazy Mama Bear mode.  Your gentle nature goes right out the window.  You will do anything to protect your child, and that makes you a good mother.

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Balancing

Jan 6, 2015 by

Balance

I recently had coffee with my younger brother.  Naturally the conversation turned to our parents and the way they raised us.  My brother does not believe that one’s childhood affects one for the rest of one’s life.  “How is it possible that 11 or 12 years – the years between 4 and 16 – shape our whole lives?”  He picked those years because, he believes, we can’t remember what happened before age 4, and by the time we’re 16 or so, our parents are irrelevant.

His point was that our parents are just part of the huge cast of characters that pass through our lives and influence us, and that they can’t be blamed for all of our failings and deficits.  He thought our parents did the best they could with what they had, and made his case for the fact that THEY were raised by people who didn’t bring a lot to the table either.

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Two Brothers

Dec 9, 2014 by

This morning I woke Jack up to take him to daycare and he was his usual cranky, dramatic three year old self:

 

“But I can’t brush my teeth.”

That’s not the shirt I want to wear.”

“Those aren’t the pants I want to wear.”

“I want milk.”

“No, I want juice.”

“No, not in that cup.”

 

The morning went on like that…until he saw his little brother. Immediately, an involuntary grin spread across his face. They smiled and giggled at some secret inside joke and then Jack took his brother’s chubby fist in his hand and said “Look Mom, two brothers.”

My babies.

My boys.

 My sons.

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Awkward Family Photos

Nov 11, 2014 by

My Fam (minus Mom the photographer) nailing the Awkward Family Photo.

My Fam (minus Mom the photographer) nailing the Awkward Family Photo.

Ever since my second son was born at the beginning of this year, I’ve been dying to get professional family photos taken. You know the ones I’m talking about: Mom, Dad, and kids all in classically generic poses, beaming at the camera, dressed embarrassingly alike. Yeah, I wanted that, in all of its cheesy glory. So for months, I planned. I picked out coordinating (but not identical) preppy little outfits for the boys (aren’t little sweater vests the cutest?). I found the perfect photographer, perfect location, and chose the perfect autumn day. I even bought the picture frames I was going to put the pictures in. These were going to be the best family photos ever! The morning of our photo shoot I talked to my three year old about what we were going to do, we practiced our smiles, and he was very excited about the whole idea.

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5 Things I Swore I Would Never Do as a Parent (But do all the Time)

Oct 28, 2014 by

carol

I had a very specific vision of the type of parent I wanted to be. And then I became a parent and was smacked in the face with reality. I still have the same basic core values and I won’t budge on those. But then there’s everything else. I will be the first to admit, many of the things I swore I would never do I do now because it’s just plain easier. Yes. I take the easy way out. A lot. Here are a few examples…

 

Use TV as a babysitter

Pre-Mom: My child will never sit in front of the television. My child will use educational toys to entertain himself. We will spend our time together reading books, doing puzzles, and having intelligent conversations.

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