Little Reminders for the Single Parent

Feb 5, 2016 by

So far the beginning of this year has been more stressful than I would have liked. My car needed work that cost more money than I had or could get on my own. One income just does not cover the extra financial needs that life throws at you. Luckily I was able to utilize my natural supports to help in that area. However, knowing that I am unable to provide that for myself, by myself, has been defeating to my spirit. Trying to make the choice that a single parent often finds themselves in of having to choose between a second full-time job to make ends meet, which will inevitably take away any time with your child, or being stuck in a financial rut unable to become financially stable yet being able to keep the connection with your child, has been keeping me up many nights.

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Leaning Into Life as a Single Parent

Jan 29, 2016 by

I have so many feelings about being a single parent. It’s hard, deeply overwhelming at times, scary yet also extremely rewarding. I’ll admit that during the past year of adjusting to life after divorce, the hard stuff has felt, well, really damn hard.

One of the things I struggle with the most is the realization that I am totally on my own. There’s no one to tap if I don’t feel like doing the bath time routine. There’s no one to tap during a tantrum. There’s no one to tap during the morning let’s-get-out-the-door rush.

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Growing Up Transgender: Thoughts, Advice, and Hope

Jan 26, 2016 by

My friend Natalie and I have a lot in common. We love fashion and makeup and manis and pedis.  We love the summer and give each other pep talks to get through the long cold winter months.  We’re both girly girls.   There are some differences though.  Natalie is a huge dog person.  Me, not so much.  Natalie loves her Jeep.  I don’t really care about my car.  Natalie is transgender, and I am not.

natalie2When I met Natalie a few years ago, she was Nate.  I’ll never forget Nate: a fun, bubbly, gorgeous boy with fabulously long, tan legs that had me envious.  Over the past few years, this fun, bubbly, gorgeous person has been transforming into her authentic self, who happens to be a beautiful, generous, thoughtful woman.  She’s a woman who finds joy in performing random acts of kindness, has literally given her last dollar to a homeless woman, set up a fundraiser to help a friend in need; she is truly a kind soul.  Yet Natalie struggles every day with things you and I may not think twice about.

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Growing Pains

Jan 26, 2016 by

My daughter exhausts me. She pushes me to my limits, tests my patience, and her whining can be maddening.

But I find myself wishing the weekdays away until Friday comes and I never want the weekends to end. Instead of trudging out to my car and going to work each morning, I just want to snuggle up with my daughter in her cozy room under the glow of Christmas lights that hang on her wall in the place of a nightlight. When I get out of work, I can’t wait to see her and listen to her chatter about her day. Even though the crush of rush hour grocery shopping, figuring out dinner, taking the dog out, and unpacking bags creates chaos and stress, there’s nothing I look forward to more than getting home with my Bean.

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What’s Harder – Dating as a Feminist or a Single Mom?

Jan 6, 2016 by

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OH MY WORD LADIES. OH MY WORD. The dating scene is horrifying. Horrifying.

This month marks one year since my ex and I decided to go the divorce route. I wasn’t ready to date for a long time but relatively recently decided to put myself back out there again. I made myself an online dating profile and figured I’d just see where that goes. I’m not the type of person that has to always be in a relationship, I’m quite happy on my own, so I’m trying to have a casual feel to this whole thing.

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