The Magic of a Mother’s Touch

Jun 24, 2015 by

 582299__a-mother-s-touch_pOnce again, I originally planned on writing about a different topic, but then, well, life happened.  Yesterday I ended up at the Pediatrician’s office with my sixteen-month old.  I swear, this poor little guy just can’t catch a break.  And let me tell you, this kid does NOT like the doctor’s office.  He’s been there so many times in the past year for colds, coughs, ear infections, you name it, that as soon as we get into the office, he starts to get anxious.  And when the nurse comes in?  Forget it.  He is in full-blown panic mode, eyes wide, big, fat tears rolling down his face, clawing at me and holding on for dear life. The irrational side of me wants to shield him from the nurse and keep him protected from a situation that is obviously terrifying him.  Luckily I have a (somewhat) rational side that holds him out to her, letting her poke and prod him, because after all, it’s for his own good.  When I scoop him back in my arms, he hides his sticky, wet face in my breast.  I stroke his cheek, and whisper, “it’s ok.”  His breathing slows down and I feel his body relax.  I keep stroking his face.  “It’s ok.”  He picks his face up, a string of drool still connecting us, and he smiles and giggles.  He knows it’s ok.

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Life Lessons from a Failed Marriage

May 4, 2015 by

“Hi, my name is Emily, and I’m divorced.”  That’s pretty much how it feels to share this part of my life with people.  I might as well wear a big red ‘D’ on my shirt.  What happened?  Really bad question to ask a divorced or divorcing person, by the way, but for the purposes of this post: I was young, I was naive, we were in love.  By the five year mark, ugliness had overtaken us – so slowly that I didn’t even notice.  The D-word had never even crossed my mind, and literally one day I woke up and realized that I didn’t know who he was, I didn’t know who I was, and I had no idea how we had gotten to that place.  I was 27 when our divorce was finalized, but I felt like a newborn.  I had to learn to walk, talk, feel, exist on my own. To say that this was a transformative event in my life is a vast understatement.  I learned so much, and here are some of the most valuable lessons:

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Need/Want a Valentine? We’ve Got You Covered, Mamas

Feb 9, 2015 by

A lot of pressure comes along with Valentine’s Day each year, am I right? Now, as someone who loves love, I truly look forward to V-Day  but not necessarily because of the romantic aspect of it, really just because I view it as a celebration of all of the love in my life. I’m currently going through a divorce (a very amicable one, thankfully) so I feel a particular need to be there for my fellow single mamas.

I know a lot of people don’t like V-Day because they view it as a made up Hallmark holiday aimed at making lots of $$. And yes, I’m right there with you. I agree that with this holiday (like many others) we’ve gotten a bit too focused on buying gifts and are less focused on the message of the day. And yes, we typically do view V-Day as something only for those with a spouse or partner but I’m here to say it doesn’t have to be that way!

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A Valentine for My Soul Mates

Feb 9, 2015 by

My husband and I have been together more than half of our lives. We met when I was 15 years old. We married 12 years later. We’ve moved across the country together. We have two beautiful children. I am so happy to have found him, but I’ve always felt that I don’t believe in soul mates. What are the chances that mine was born two towns over from me and that we were destined to be together? He is an awesome husband and an amazingly caring father, but I hope that there are lots of guys out there like that. I know I’m lucky to have found the one for me.

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9 Reasons You’re a Good Mother

Feb 4, 2015 by

1.  You think you’re not.  You are convinced you’re doing it all wrong.  You try different parenting techniques and regardless of whether they are effective or not, you still question them.  You’re inconsistent.  You worry about every miniscule detail, both physically and emotionally. Your child doesn’t eat healthy enough, watches too much TV, gets too much attention, doesn’t get enough attention, doesn’t sleep well. You didn’t breast feed long enough. Did he have that cough yesterday?  Is he gaining enough weight?  Too much weight?  Stop.  The fact that you worry is a testament of how much you care and how utterly important you take your role, and that makes you a good mother.

 

2.  You have a fierce instinct to protect them.  You’re a gentle person who doesn’t enjoy confrontation or conflict.  But if someone crosses your child, you fly into crazy Mama Bear mode.  Your gentle nature goes right out the window.  You will do anything to protect your child, and that makes you a good mother.

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