5 Important Lessons in Five Years

Jun 3, 2014 by

dons eyes I have had the pleasure of looking into these beautiful blue eyes for the last 5 years. My son and oldest child, Donald, turns five years old this week. It certainly has been a ride, that’s for sure. And, for as much as he has grown, I too have learned a lot about myself, motherhood, and being a family. In honor of this monumental birthday (it’s huge in my mind), I would like to take a moment to reflect on 5 of the most important lessons my son has taught me thus far.

 

 

Top 5 Lessons Learned in Five Years:

1. Life- the every day, like going to the park, riding a bike, shopping at Walgreens, or watching a tv show, is so very interesting and exciting;

2. People, their interests, their tastes, and their personalities grow and change and it is a lot easier and more pleasant to go with the flow than to fight against it;

Oh, Facebook . . .

Jun 2, 2014 by

This week I decided to remove myself from a Facebook moms’ group that I had been added to by an out of state relative. I followed along for several months, but I realized that while I do believe in what these moms are doing, I am not against the things that they are condemning. I also felt myself starting to judge and become condescending. I have two kids and most of these women are younger with only one baby. I was beginning to feel like I knew more than them because I’d been around the block a time or two. In parenting, my views fall pretty much square in the middle. I think it’s super to wear your baby as much as you like, but I also don’t see a problem with a bit of crying it out. I also started judging myself. Am I not fit to be a mom because the thought of having to rock my baby until she falls asleep every night gives me hives? Is it bad I’d rather be packing the lunches for the next day, wiping down the counters and heading to bed myself? I comforted myself by telling myself that these moms have only been doing this a few months and surely they wouldn’t want to still be rocking to sleep every night when their kids are two and three years old. Again, there’s the judging happening. Let them rock their babies. How does that even begin to affect my life and my kids!? I certainly doubt that little Johnny is going to brag to my kid on the playground that his mom loves him more because she doesn’t mind an hour-long bedtime every night while her mom fidgets through a dreaded princess story.

I love, I mean hate, I mean Love breastfeeding…

May 16, 2014 by

The other day I was thinking about how much I love and how much I hate breastfeeding.

YUP I am going to say it out loud “Sometimes I fucking hate breastfeeding.” I do not have any hard core view on what is better breastfeeding, or formula and this is not the debate of this piece. (I personally don’t care what you feed your kids as long as you are feeding them that makes you a great parent in my eyes)

I am the type of person who needs to bitch about stuff and then I let it out of my system and feel better. I breastfed my son and am breastfeeding my daughter but honestly there are so many things people do not tell you about breastfeeding and I think all mom’s should hear some of it.

1. The beginning is a total mind fuck and HARD!

Teaching Our Children About Kindness on Mother’s Day [Photos]

May 12, 2014 by

Yesterday wrapped up 11 days of kindness here at CT Working Moms and what a wonderful experience it was! Each day for 10 days we gave readers a new random act of kindness idea on our Facebook page and yesterday, on Mother’s Day, we performed over 100 random acts of kindness with our children. For me, it’s important to teach my daughter about the importance of kindness starting at an early age. I’m incredibly proud to say that this past Mother’s Day marked 1 year since I started doing kindness activities with her and this girl is now a professional at making people happy!

Judging Less Takes Practice – No One’s Perfect

Apr 15, 2014 by

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Throughout our Campaign for Judgement-Free Motherhood I’ve tried to emphasize that for those who see the value in judging other moms less, the way to start is by simply noticing when we’re doing it. From my personal experience, it’s easy to go down a dark rabbit hole of judgment and negativity if I choose to follow those kinds of thoughts and honestly, I don’t like the way I feel when I’m in that kind of head space.

I deeply believe in universal compassion, kindness and seeing the good in other people. But still sometimes I falter. I’ve noticed in the past few weeks that I’ve been judging people more than usual, which I think is a result of some negative stuff that’s been going on in my personal life. It’s definitely harder to let judgmental thoughts go when your mind isn’t in the greatest place.

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