One Year Later

Apr 22, 2015 by

Eleanor

May 12th will be the one-year anniversary of my daughter Natalie’s surgery to fuse her spine and correct severe scoliosis caused by a neurological disorder called Neurofibromatosis (NF). As winter has turned to spring my mind has begun to wander to the events leading up to and following that extremely difficult day. With those memories has come residual anxiety and sadness and continued fear of what we may face next. Rather than focus on those difficult emotions I’ve tried instead to reflect on how much I have learned this year.

Night Before

Natalie and I at Mother’s Day dinner–the night before her surgery.

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Making The Brave Choice

Apr 17, 2015 by

I don’t know about you, but sometimes, I feel like my life verges on monotony.  Go to work, come home, deal with stuff, go to bed pass out on the couch, wake up, and begin again. It’s easy to get stuck in routine – which, admittedly, is great for kids, but not so great for adults.

It could be as simple as cooking the same meals week-after-week, or spending weekend nights glued to Netflix. But this Groundhog Day existence isn’t healthy – for you, your partner, or your kids. Sometimes you have to shake things up, consider a different path, and make a brave choice to re-imagine your life.

That’s a pretty bold statement.

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Remember to Look Up

Apr 6, 2015 by

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I had an epiphany of sorts the other day while running. It was a tough run, as most of them have been lately, and I had my eyes down on the road, focused totally on the pain and heaviness in my legs. Each step felt like a chore and my muscles ached. Then, all of the sudden, I looked up and noticed the sun shining, the beauty of the rural area I was in and how stunning the clear blue sky was. In that moment I realized how much of a metaphor that is for my life right now. I’ve been focused on the road directly in front of me and haven’t stopped at all to look up and remember that life is bigger than just what I’m going through right at this moment. Divorce is not easy, even when both people agree it’s the right thing and I’ve gotten a bit stuck in the daily struggles I’ve faced. I wrote the words below to remind me that every now and again, I’ve got to look up.

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Surviving and Thriving as a Solo Mom

Mar 26, 2015 by

Another year has gone by and my beautiful son just turned 4 years old. It amazes me that so far, I have been able to raise a happy, healthy, well-behaved child on my own. Being a solo parent has its struggles financially, physically and emotionally but as most of us moms do…I push through it to make life work.

I remember the day that I told my son’s father the news that I was pregnant and the response that he gave me shocked me into an emotional state that I was not expecting. I did not cry, I did not get mad or upset, I surprisingly felt empowered. I was calm and centered and made a choice that I did not need to have this man around if he chose not to be, nor will I try to force the issue. So from that day forward, I took this path alone. I decided that I was not going to pity my situation but rather take the bull by the horns and try to be that super solo mom that I knew I had to be. I made sure I had all my ducks in a row, I found a great child care facility and pediatrician, I even made sure to contact Child Support Enforcement and a lawyer all by the time my second trimester rolled around.

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How Yoga Teacher Training Made Me a Better Mom

Mar 16, 2015 by

Back when I only had one kid, I did something amazing and I did it just for me. I gifted myself 10 months and 200 hours of yoga teacher training. My daughter was only 14 months old when the training began and I was working over 32 hours a week. Fitting in a weekend away from my family once a month for 10 months was a big deal for me and for my family. I could not have done this without my husband’s support. With the other students, we formed a sangha at my favorite local yoga studio and I decided to devote some time to better myself. I wanted to learn about yoga, I wanted to deepen my practice, work my body and learn about myself.

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