10 Ways You Know Your Kids Are Getting Older

Jul 24, 2015 by

Last Sunday’s hazy, hot, and humid weather was the perfect excuse for us to enjoy a lazy day at the beach. As we sat in our chairs under our umbrella, we watched the families chasing their little tykes and reminding them not to throw sand, walk on the blanket with their sand-caked feet, and desperately trying to wipe the sand off their food after it had been dropped. It brought me right back to when my son was that age – the beach always seemed like a good idea, but it was definitely not the relaxing day that I anticipated – it was work. Of course, there were lots of fun times and happy memories, but I don’t think I actually sat on the beach in those days for more than 5 minutes at a time.

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transition isn’t just for kids

Jul 17, 2015 by

The journey of a transgender child isn’t a smooth one, even if that child is lucky enough to have an accepting family and community. There is a lot of anxiety. A LOT. And when you think about it, it makes sense. As a toddler and a young child, your parents are everything. They are the ultimate authority on how the world works. And when they call you a boy, well, they must be right. Right?

Add in every other authority figure in your life — siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles, teachers, doctors, librarians (hey, they’ve always been a big authority figure in my life!) — saying the same thing, and it can be so disorienting to feel that you are a girl when they’re all saying that you are a boy.

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You Can’t Carry It With You If You Want To Survive

Jul 14, 2015 by

{Trigger warning: sexual assault}

No parent looks forward to talking about sex. It’s awkward. Uncomfortable. Intrusive. Many just choose to gloss over it. “Don’t be one of those girls” or “Have fun but be safe” is too often the extent of it. So we sweep it under the rug. We focus on grades. College applications. Driving tests. Sports. Anything but sex.

Parents: talk about sex and relationships with your kids. Talk about it openly and honestly. Talk about it often. Get over yourselves and your hangups and have the conversations.

I had no sex and relationship talks in my childhood and adolescence. Fourteen years ago, I was sexually assaulted. I went on to date the person who assaulted me in an effort to make it right in my head. If we were dating after, it wasn’t assault, right? Right! All was well.

Except, it wasn’t. It lurks.

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Cautious Mom Goes on an Adventure

Jul 8, 2015 by

Have you ever imagined something happening one way, and in reality, when it actually happens, it’s nothing like you imagined?

Well, that is exactly what happened to me last week.

Let me preface my story by telling you a little about me and my adventurous/risk-taking side. As the oldest child of three, I tend to be the cautious one. The careful one. Yes, I have many typical “first born” traits:
• Respectful of authority
• Motivated
• Leader
• Fearful in new situations
• Mature
• Dependent on others for approval
• Self-disciplined

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An Open Letter

Jul 7, 2015 by

To the Parent of the child my son is targeting with biting-

All I can say is that I’m sorry. I don’t know why my son is “targeting” your daughter and biting her. From my understanding they are buddies and play well together – until he decides to take it that one step further and ruin the fun. I can only imagine what you think of us as parents. How could we possibly allow this type of behavior? Well please know that we don’t. We do not tolerate biting, hitting, name calling, spitting, etc. in our home.

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